
Queer Jews Michael Sokolovsky and Rabbi Xava De Cordova play with the multi-millennial dialectic that is the Talmud. Join them as they throw drash, seek prophetic insight and uncover the rabbinic smuttiness inherent in the system.
| Publishes | Twice monthly | Episodes | 269 | Founded | 6 years ago |
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I love Xava and Michael! I've listened to every episode (I started in 2025 so I had to catch up!) and I just love the way they talk about stories in the talmud, Jewish culture, their personal lives, and queer topics generally. As a recent convert (mikvah was Sept 2025), this podcast really helps me feel connected to Judaism!
I laugh out loud. I learn gay stuff. I love the pod so much that I’m posting what I think is my first ever review on the internet. Thanks, Xava and Michael, for sharing your delightful selves and smutttiness with us.
Charming and endearing. Jewish and gay. Tickles my heart
I found your podcast and started at the beginning. I am over the moon grateful for you generous sharing of your insights and beautiful selves. As a queer Jew, your podcast is giving my spirit hope and inspiration. Wonderful tikkun olam! Toda raba!
also Xava and Michael have beautiful voices, it is an excellent listening experience
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Two hosts—Michael Sokolovsky and Rabbi Xava De Cordova—spark lively, humorous discussions around Talmud, Mishnah, and broader Jewish law, with a strong focus on Nazirite vows, purity, and how ancient rules intersect with modern life. Episodes blend rigorous textual analysis with personal anecdotes, pop culture references, and queer Jewish perspectives, often aiming to make dense material approachable and relatable while maintaining a playful, irreverent tone. The show stands out for its explicit fusion of scholarly critique, candid banter, and a commitment to queer Jewish voice and lived spirituality, which may appeal to listeners who enjoy thoughtful religious study wrapped in accessible, personality-driven conversation.
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