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Waking Up to Narcissism

Tony Overbay LMFT
Emotional Immaturity
Narcissism
Gaslighting
Mental Health
Relationships
Therapy
Personal Growth
Emotional Abuse
Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Self-Compassion
Vulnerability
Emotional Maturity
Interpersonal Relationships
Emotional Manipulation
Self-Care
Death By a Thousand Cuts
Boundaries
Control Dynamics
Rethinking Narcissism
Attachment Styles

"Waking Up to Narcissism" is a podcast hosted by Tony Overbay, LMFT, host of the award-winning Virtual Couch podcast, dedicated to helping individuals recognize and navigate narcissistic traits and tendencies in their relationships and within themselves. With a focus on emotional immaturity versus narcissism, Tony provides tools and guidance for personal growth and managing relationships with narc... more

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Waking up to betrayal, gaslighting, or emotional immaturity rarely comes with a casserole on the porch or a meal train. When someone has a baby or a surgery, people can see the event and show up with dinner. When you discover a double life, or realiz... more

Narcissistic personality disorder vs. emotional immaturity: what separates the two, and why that difference shapes how you heal. On Greg and Amy Langford's podcast Undressing Intimacy, Tony draws on psychologist Elinor Greenberg's view of narcissisti... more

Why do smart, thoughtful people believe such different things? Authority bias, confirmation bias, and belonging shape what we believe long before we can explain why. Tony starts with a kid raised in an East Coast fishing town, and another raised hiki... more

Narcissistic relationship patterns can teach you where to stop, long after anyone has to correct you. Installment 12 of Death by 1,000 Cuts uses the image of an invisible fence to describe how a dog learns to stop at a line nobody walking by can see,... more

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Recent Guests

Tony Overbay
Licensed marriage and family therapist, host of Waking Up to Narcissism
Self-Hosted Podcast/Therapy Practice
Episode: We're All Emotionally Immature. Some Are Narcissists. Which Are You?
Angela De Hoyos
Fellow therapist and host of Finding Balance with Mental Health and Spirituality
Finding Balance with Mental Health and Spirituality
Episode: Validation, Co-regulation, and Emotional Immaturity (with a Hint of Spirituality) w/Angela De Hoyos, ALC
Katherine Fabrizio
Licensed psychotherapist and author of The Good Daughter Syndrome
The Good Daughter Syndrome
Episode: Tell Me About Your Mother": Untangling Childhood's Hidden Traps with "The Good Daughter Syndrome" Author Katherine Fabrizio
Ashlynn Allen
Empowerment coach and betrayal trauma survivor
Self-employed
Episode: Finding Courage Through Chaos: Ashlynn's Path from Betrayal to Empowerment
Kate Anthony
Renowned divorce coach and author of 'The D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage'
Episode: Kate Anthony, Author of “The D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage” on Deciphering Divorce, Confronting Decisions, and Embracing Empowerment
Ryan Anderson
PhD, LMFT, and Author of 'The Choice to Leave Abuse'
Director at Telos NeuroHealth
Episode: Abuse, God, and Self-Discovery with Ryan Anderson, PhD., LMFT, and Author of 'The Choice to Leave Abuse'

Host

Tony Overbay
Host of Waking Up to Narcissism; licensed marriage and family therapist; also known for The Virtual Couch and related shows; focuses on narcissism, emotional immaturity, and relationship healing.

Reviews

4.9 out of 5 stars from 1.1k ratings
  • Great concepts

    I really like listening to this podcast. I only have one critique. Your guests are speaking over you, and interrupting you. That is so annoying. It makes listening difficult.

    Apple Podcasts
    4
    Crazy cat lady 66
    United States23 days ago
  • Compassionate & rational

    There’s a handful of creators alive in my lifespan that I have felt genuine gratitude that they took whatever that first leap was into making their particular contribution into something others could benefit from - Tony, you’re right up the top. There’s a lot I could say, probably better left to a listener email… As a recovering, and recently relapsed, pathologically kind type, I began recognising how ultimately irrational so many of the double jeopardy hoops I jumped through my of my life real... more

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    Wonderful Things Are Possible
    Australiaa month ago
  • Thank you

    Thank you so much for your work. This is a life raft that finally helps me see I am not alone and am not crazy. It is a long long road to get one’s life together after years being under coercive control.

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    Emily E F
    United States7 months ago
  • Wisdom

    Tony has been beyond helpful through my 3 year journey of waking up. I tend to self blame and Tony has a way to talk me out of it and give myself some grace. I have learned about my family’s unhealthy coping mechanisms and grown from it, as well as my own. Thank you Tony, truly:)

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    limdsk82
    United States7 months ago
  • Too much jesus mumbo jumbo

    Podcast Addict
    3
    Morgue
    8 months ago

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Some critiques mention long silences or repetition, but overall feedback emphasizes usefulness and depth.
Listeners describe the show as life-changing and validating for those navigating narcissistic or emotionally immature dynamics.
Many praise the host's compassionate, clear, and practical guidance that blends therapy concepts with real-life examples.
Audiences frequently note improved boundaries, empowerment, and better communication in relationships.

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We're All Emotionally Immature. Some Are Narcissists. Which Are You?
Q: Can someone with highly narcissistic traits change and become more vulnerable or empathetic?
The guests acknowledge it's possible for some to change if they're willing to look at themselves, but it's not guaranteed; progress depends on willingness to self-reflect, set boundaries, and engage in sustained work.
The Unicorn Might Have Rabies: How Anxiety Keeps You "Safe" - Live Q&A
Q: How do I rebuild myself and change my life after recognizing my patterns?
The host emphasizes that awareness of one's reaction is the first critical step; progress comes from moving through the four steps of competence, starting with consciously recognizing your reactive patterns and then practicing a pause, open curiosity, and deliberate, grounded responses.
“Killed Them All, Of Course": The Mind of Robert Durst w/Attorney Kate
Q: Did you find the hot mic moment and cadaver note as decisive in theDurst prosecutions?
Yes, the combination of the hot mic confession and the cadaver note provided influential, corroborating material that helped prosecutors connect Durst to the murders, especially in the Los Angeles case against Susan Berman.
What Happens When You Stop Needing to Be Right - Certainty, Curiosity, and Emotional Immaturity
Q: Lately I have found myself feeling exhausted by a lot of public conversations where everyone seems certain. Why does certainty seem so appealing, and is it actually a sign of emotional health?
Certainty is appealing because it reduces cognitive load and provides quick reassurance, but it often masks a lack of nuance and data. The episode argues that wisdom sounds more like curiosity, tolerates ambiguity, and invites questions. Emotional health is shown by comfort with uncertainty, willingness to revise beliefs, and the courage to say 'I don't know' when appropriate.
What Happens When You Stop Needing to Be Right - Certainty, Curiosity, and Emotional Immaturity
Q: I've noticed that in conversations I often pull attention back to myself, and I know I'm doing it and don't like it. Do you have suggestions for how to stop needing that validation in the moment?
Start with awareness and map out the origin of the behavior, often tied to early experiences of conditional self-worth. The guidance is to notice without judgment, acknowledge the impulse, and shift toward genuine curiosity about the other person. Use a step-by-step process: notice, pause, ask questions, and stay curious about the other person's perspective for 15-30 seconds to recalibrate the interaction.

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This program focuses on recognizing narcissistic traits and emotional immaturity in relationships, with practical guidance for healing and healthier communication. Episodes blend therapy frameworks, personal anecdotes, and crossover topics with related mental health discussions, often using real-life case studies and literary or pop-culture references to illustrate concepts like differentiation, co-regulation, and self-validated intimacy. Notably, the host balances compassion with accountability, aims to empower listeners to set boundaries, seek growth, and improve their relationships or personal well-being, even when dealing with challenging dynamics.

A distinctive angle is the clear emphasis on emotional maturity as a path to better rela... more

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2. Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
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2. Angela De Hoyos
3. Katherine Fabrizio
4. Ashlynn Allen
5. Kate Anthony
6. Ryan Anderson

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