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You Are Not Crazy

Jessica Knight
Emotional Abuse
Narcissistic Abuse
Trauma Bonding
Boundaries
Gaslighting
Coercive Control
Borderline Personality Disorder
High-Conflict Divorce
Healing
Relationships
Cycle Of Abuse
Mental Health
Sexual Coercion
Therapy
Divorce
Trauma Bond
Self-Care
Trauma Bonds
Co-Parenting
Emotional Manipulation

You know something is wrong. You just can’t always explain what it is.

Why do you keep apologizing when you didn’t do anything wrong? Why can one nice interaction make you question months of mistreatment? Why do you rehearse conversations before you have them? Why are you still trying to make someone understand you when explaining yourself has never worked? Why does every individual incident sound... more

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Recent Guests

Stefanos Sifandos
Personal transformation coach with 25 years of experience working with leaders, athletes and couples
Episode: Knowing Your Pattern Isn't the Same as Changing It, with Stefanos Sifandos
Anne Blythe
Founder and Executive Director of Betrayal Trauma Recovery (BTR.org)
Betrayal Trauma Recovery
Episode: The Lying Isn't an Accident: A Conversation with Anne Blythe from BTR.org
Najwa Zebian
Writer and therapist-in-training discussed in episode; author of The One Who Broke You Can't Heal You
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Episode: Why Closure Is a Myth with Najwa Zebian
Dr. Christine Cocchiola
Coercive Control Specialist, Therapist, TEDx Speaker, Author
Coercive Control Consulting
Episode: The Underpinning of All Abuse: Coercive Control with Dr. Christine Cocchiola
Paul Colaianni
Host of The Overwhelmed Brain and Love and Abuse
The Overwhelmed Brain; Love and Abuse
Episode: Wanting Them to Change Isn’t Abuse - Interview with Paul Colaianni
Holly Rilinger
Founder of The Lifted Method, empowering women in midlife through fitness and strength training.
The Lifted Method
Episode: From Love Bombing to Losing Myself — and Finding My Way Back
Dr. Kerry McAvoy
Retired psychologist, survivor of an abusive relationship, and author.
Toxic Free Relationship Club
Episode: When It Was Never About Change: Understanding the Psychology Behind Cluster B Abuse
Victoria Kirilloff
Certified Divorce Financial Analyst and Family Financial Mediator.
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Episode: He Controlled the Money — Now What? with Victoria Kirilloff
Dr. Nae
Trauma bond expert, counselor, and author of 'Run Like Hell'
drnae.com
Episode: Breaking Free from a Pathological Partner with Dr. Nae

Host

Jessica Knight
Host of the show, emotional abuse coach and survivor; advocates for recognizing gaslighting, trauma bonding, and coercive control, with a focus on coaching and resources for healing.

Reviews

4.5 out of 5 stars from 295 ratings
  • Love this podcast !

    Thank you for your podcast ! I find it a great support . By the way your intro is perfect ! Thank you 🙏🏻

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    4
    ashleighmcintosh
    South Africa3 months ago
  • Spot on from someone who’s lived it!

    I’m on the other side of an emotionally abusive marriage, I’ve remarried a wonderful man & am struggling because my nervous system is hypersensitive and is activated so easily. I am often irrationally paranoid that I’ve done something wrong & monitor my new husband’s every movement and mood. I recently fired my therapist because she thinks my issues stem from some repressed past trauma. But I know that isn’t it. I wasn’t like this before I met my abuser. I know what happened to me & this podcast... more

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    Jsfgtt
    United States4 months ago
  • My ex had BPD, this podcast explains so much better than many things I found

    I was pretty secure before that relationship, but eventually I felt like I was losing my mind, and this podcast really touches on all aspects of that. It was so mind-warping and isolating for months during the last two discard cycles and somehow even worse after I finally made the choice to go true no-contact. I couldn’t make sense of any of it, I no longer trusted myself, I blamed myself relentlessly for missing something, I asked everyone I knew if they thought I was too blunt or if I should h... more

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    5
    greengoddessgoodnesssmoothie
    United States5 months ago
  • The missing link

    Downloading the course was the best decision Ive made. Pennies dropped everywhere.

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    Oh, I will.
    Australia7 months ago
  • Very good - Short but very informative and healing

    I have only listened to two short podcasts and learned so much already like why my sister rages. I have wanted to know why but now see it was simply about transferring her stuff on me.

    Also to stop trying to understand them and to focus on me.

    Thank you so much

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    Louise1742
    United Kingdom8 months ago

Listeners Say

Key themes from listener reviews, highlighting what works and what could be improved about the show.

The host's candid storytelling and expertise provide realistic paths to healing.
Some feedback calls out production issues, but content and support remain highly valued.
A compassionate, validating resource for survivors seeking clarity and practical steps.
Listeners appreciate concrete frameworks and actionable coaching options.
Episodes regularly help people recognize abuse patterns and regulate responses.

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Knowing Your Pattern Isn't the Same as Changing It, with Stefanos Sifandos
Q: How do you work with that?
Sifandos says it is very difficult to work with a couple when one person refuses to examine their own behavior. Both partners need to be willing to face themselves, take responsibility and make changes.
Knowing Your Pattern Isn't the Same as Changing It, with Stefanos Sifandos
Q: How would you define trauma bonding or how do you define trauma bonding?
Sifandos describes trauma bonding as people relating from unresolved wounds and recreating familiar dysfunctional patterns. He says intense sexual attraction can compensate for the dysfunction and be mistaken for deep intimacy.
Why Closure Is a Myth with Najwa Zebian
Q: What does closure mean in this context and why is it considered a myth?
Closure is something you give yourself; it isn't something the hurtful person can hand you. Healing comes from reframing what happened, grieving what was lost, and choosing to move forward with boundaries and self-trust.
When Mental Illness Becomes an Excuse for Abuse
Q: Why do boundaries sometimes seem to make the abusive partner worse, and what does that reveal about the relationship?
Boundaries disrupt control. If the other person escalates as boundaries are set, it indicates the boundary is effective and they don't respect it, signaling a dysfunctional dynamic rather than a healthy disagreement.
When Mental Illness Becomes an Excuse for Abuse
Q: When does mental illness stop being an explanation and start being an excuse?
When harm becomes a repeated pattern without sustained work, accountability, or change, it becomes an excuse. Mental health can explain distress but cannot justify ongoing harm.

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Frequently Asked Questions About You Are Not Crazy

What is You Are Not Crazy about and what kind of topics does it cover?

This show's conversation centers on recognizing, naming, and healing from emotional abuse, coercive control, and trauma bonds in intimate relationships. Episodes frequently explore patterns like gaslighting, manipulation, boundary-setting, and post-separation dynamics, often pairing personal experience with clinical insights to help listeners regain clarity, safety, and self-trust. A notable strength is the creator's transparent coaching ecosystem—courses, programs, and a private podcast—that offer structured paths for healing, boundaries, and navigating high-conflict relationships and custody concerns.

Listeners are likely drawn to practical frameworks for understanding abuse, concrete safety strategies, and supportive coaching resources.... more

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2. Anne Blythe
3. Najwa Zebian
4. Dr. Christine Cocchiola
5. Paul Colaianni
6. Holly Rilinger
7. Dr. Kerry McAvoy
8. Victoria Kirilloff

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