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You Are Not Crazy

Jessica Knight
Emotional Abuse
Narcissistic Abuse
Trauma Bonding
Boundaries
Gaslighting
Coercive Control
Borderline Personality Disorder
Healing
Relationships
Cycle Of Abuse
High-Conflict Divorce
Mental Health
Sexual Coercion
Therapy
Divorce
Trauma Bond
Self-Care
Trauma Bonds
Co-Parenting
Emotional Manipulation

You’re exhausted from over-functioning. Always managing the chaos. Always trying to keep the peace.

You feel alone. Misunderstood. Like no one sees the full story—except you.

You question yourself constantly. You wonder if you’re the problem.

You’re not.

This podcast helps you understand emotional abuse, coercive control, narcissistic relationships, and trauma bonds—so you can stop doubting yourse... more

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Episode: Why Closure Is a Myth with Najwa Zebian
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Dr. Kerry McAvoy
Retired psychologist, survivor of an abusive relationship, and author.
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Episode: When It Was Never About Change: Understanding the Psychology Behind Cluster B Abuse
Dr. Nae
Trauma bond expert, counselor, and author of 'Run Like Hell'
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Episode: Breaking Free from a Pathological Partner with Dr. Nae
Anne Wintemute
Co-founder and CEO of Aimee Says, an AI companion for people impacted by relationship abuse.
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Episode: Aimee the AI Advocate: How Aimee Says Supports Survivors of Emotional Abuse
Paul Colaianni
Host of the Love and Abuse Podcast
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Episode: Understanding the Capability of Emotionally Abusive People with Paul Colaianni
Dr. Christine Cocchiola
Doctor of Clinical Social Work, licensed clinical therapist, and social justice advocate known for her work on coercive control.
Episode: Coercive Control with Dr Christine Cocchiola
Sheila Gregoire
Author of The Great Sex Rescue, addressing sexual obligation in marriages.
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Episode: Sexual Coercion
Emily Nagoski
Author of Come As You Are, known for her work on women's sexuality.
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Episode: Sexual Coercion

Host

Jessica Knight
Host of the show, emotional abuse coach and survivor; advocates for recognizing gaslighting, trauma bonding, and coercive control, with a focus on coaching and resources for healing.

Reviews

4.5 out of 5 stars from 293 ratings
  • Love this podcast !

    Thank you for your podcast ! I find it a great support . By the way your intro is perfect ! Thank you 🙏🏻

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    4
    ashleighmcintosh
    South Africa2 months ago
  • Spot on from someone who’s lived it!

    I’m on the other side of an emotionally abusive marriage, I’ve remarried a wonderful man & am struggling because my nervous system is hypersensitive and is activated so easily. I am often irrationally paranoid that I’ve done something wrong & monitor my new husband’s every movement and mood. I recently fired my therapist because she thinks my issues stem from some repressed past trauma. But I know that isn’t it. I wasn’t like this before I met my abuser. I know what happened to me & this podcast... more

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    Jsfgtt
    United States2 months ago
  • My ex had BPD, this podcast explains so much better than many things I found

    I was pretty secure before that relationship, but eventually I felt like I was losing my mind, and this podcast really touches on all aspects of that. It was so mind-warping and isolating for months during the last two discard cycles and somehow even worse after I finally made the choice to go true no-contact. I couldn’t make sense of any of it, I no longer trusted myself, I blamed myself relentlessly for missing something, I asked everyone I knew if they thought I was too blunt or if I should h... more

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    5
    greengoddessgoodnesssmoothie
    United States4 months ago
  • The missing link

    Downloading the course was the best decision Ive made. Pennies dropped everywhere.

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    Oh, I will.
    Australia6 months ago
  • Very good - Short but very informative and healing

    I have only listened to two short podcasts and learned so much already like why my sister rages. I have wanted to know why but now see it was simply about transferring her stuff on me.

    Also to stop trying to understand them and to focus on me.

    Thank you so much

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    Louise1742
    United Kingdom7 months ago

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The host's candid storytelling and expertise provide realistic paths to healing.
Some feedback calls out production issues, but content and support remain highly valued.
A compassionate, validating resource for survivors seeking clarity and practical steps.
Listeners appreciate concrete frameworks and actionable coaching options.
Episodes regularly help people recognize abuse patterns and regulate responses.

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Why Closure Is a Myth with Najwa Zebian
Q: What does closure mean in this context and why is it considered a myth?
Closure is something you give yourself; it isn't something the hurtful person can hand you. Healing comes from reframing what happened, grieving what was lost, and choosing to move forward with boundaries and self-trust.
When Mental Illness Becomes an Excuse for Abuse
Q: Why do boundaries sometimes seem to make the abusive partner worse, and what does that reveal about the relationship?
Boundaries disrupt control. If the other person escalates as boundaries are set, it indicates the boundary is effective and they don't respect it, signaling a dysfunctional dynamic rather than a healthy disagreement.
When Mental Illness Becomes an Excuse for Abuse
Q: When does mental illness stop being an explanation and start being an excuse?
When harm becomes a repeated pattern without sustained work, accountability, or change, it becomes an excuse. Mental health can explain distress but cannot justify ongoing harm.
Wanting Them to Change Isn’t Abuse - Interview with Paul Colaianni
Q: When someone says they want their partner to change, how can you tell that this is genuine change versus a manipulation to regain control?
Genuine change is reflected in consistent actions over time, not just promises or temporary compliance. If the other person is willing to seek outside perspectives, take responsibility, and actually alter their behavior in real life, that's a sign of real change. Conversely, if they offer excuses, demand changes without changing their own behavior, or revert once the pressure subsides, it's not true change.
How Do I Stop Second Guessing Myself After Leaving an Abusive Relationship?
Q: What do I do when I feel guilty for setting boundaries?
Understand that the guilt is a learned alarm, and practice holding your boundaries regardless of the guilt that arises.

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This show's conversation centers on recognizing, naming, and healing from emotional abuse, coercive control, and trauma bonds in intimate relationships. Episodes frequently explore patterns like gaslighting, manipulation, boundary-setting, and post-separation dynamics, often pairing personal experience with clinical insights to help listeners regain clarity, safety, and self-trust. A notable strength is the creator's transparent coaching ecosystem—courses, programs, and a private podcast—that offer structured paths for healing, boundaries, and navigating high-conflict relationships and custody concerns.

Listeners are likely drawn to practical frameworks for understanding abuse, concrete safety strategies, and supportive coaching resources.... more

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2. Holly Rilinger
3. Dr. Kerry McAvoy
4. Dr. Nae
5. Anne Wintemute
6. Paul Colaianni
7. Dr. Christine Cocchiola
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