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Exploring the behaviours that shape our relationships, with ourselves and with others 💬 ‘Why Do I…?’ is a podcast about the behaviours and patterns that show up in our relationships, and what happens when we start to notice them. Hosted by Tom Stroud, the series follows on from Why Do Men, which explored male behaviour in dating and relationships. This season broadens the lens, moving away from e... more

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We’re told getting older means losing value.

So we chase youth like it can save us.

Tell ourselves we’re “still young.”

But after my full conversation with Poorna Bell, I’ve been reflecting on something deeper…

Aging isn’t the problem.

The story we... more

We're told that aging is something to dread.

That it means slowing down. Becoming invisible. Losing your edge.

So instead… we obsess over looking younger. We buy the creams. We scroll past women our age doing incredible things.

In this episode o... more

We’re told needing people is weak.

So we handle everything on our own.

Tell ourselves we’re “fine”.

But I’ve realised something recently…

Connection isn’t the reward for having your life together.

It’s the thing that helps you get there.

Loneline... more

We’re told anger is a bad thing.

So a lot of us just… stop feeling it.

Or at least, we think we do.

After my conversation with Sam Parker, I realised something uncomfortable:

I don’t really feel anger… and that might be the problem.

Because you ca... more

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Recent Guests

Poorna Bell
Author and journalist
Episode: Why Do I Fear Ageing...? With Poorna Bell
Sam Parker
Author focused on anger repression and its effects
Author, The Good Father / Good Anger
Episode: Why Do I Repress My Anger...? With Sam Parker
Henika Patel
Founder of the School of Sensual Arts, educator on Tantra, yoga, Ayurveda for intimacy
School of Sensual Arts
Episode: Why Do I Avoid Intimacy With My Partner…? Guest Expert - Henika Patel
Julius Cowdrey
A half Swedish, half English former reality TV participant now focused on wellness coaching and storytelling
Self-employed/wellness entrepreneur
Episode: Why Do I Make The Same Mistakes My Parents Did...?
Sasha Pallari
Entrepreneur and social media advocate known for body confidence and candid relationship discussions
Episode: Why Do I Fall For The Wrong People...? with Sasha Pallari
La La La
Guest speaker discussed in episode
Episode: Confronting Relationship Misunderstandings - Tom's Tips #10
La La
Educator, author, and advocate on misogyny, feminism, and modern dating
Educator/Author
Episode: Why Do Men Blame Women? #10 - Lalalaletmeexplain
Lucy Rout
Founder of Haystack Dating
Haystack Dating
Episode: Why Do Men Not Approach Women Anymore?! - Lucy Rout #9
Sabrina Zohar
Dating relationship coach; host of The Sabrina Zohar Show
Self-employed/Coach
Episode: Why Do Men Love Bomb? Sabrina Zohar #8

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Tom Stroud
Host focused on exploring relationship behaviors and patterns through personal storytelling and guest insights.

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4.9 out of 5 stars from 82 ratings
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    Listened to the Lala episode and loved it !

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    United Kingdoma year ago

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Why Do Men Love Bomb? Sabrina Zohar #8
Q: Should you consciously hold back in the early stages of a relationship to avoid love bombing?
Yes, vet the person and slowly build trust; use that time to assess reciprocity and whether the other person is capable of mutual, balanced growth rather than pressuring you into rapid, intense commitment.
Why Do Men Suppress Emotions? Josh Connolly #7
Q: What steps can a partner take if they notice addiction in their partner?
The advised approach is to work on yourself first, establish clear boundaries, and avoid trying to clean up the other person's mess; this helps maintain your own wellbeing and provides a healthier dynamic.
Why Do I Avoid Intimacy With My Partner…? Guest Expert - Henika Patel
Q: How can couples cultivate libido and connection without relying on episodic spontaneity?
Engage in practices that regulate the nervous system, use breath and movement, consider tantric energy techniques, and create safety and rest as foundations for desire to re-emerge.
Why Do I Avoid Intimacy With My Partner…? Guest Expert - Henika Patel
Q: What practical frameworks or practices can couples use to talk about intimacy without triggering defense mechanisms?
Nonviolent communication helps; begin with observations, name feelings, state needs, and make a concrete, time-bound request to reduce defensiveness and increase understanding.
Why Do I Avoid Intimacy With My Partner…? Guest Expert - Henika Patel
Q: In your practice, what is realistic for couples who have been together for a few years, and why does desire dissipate over time?
Desire shifts from dopamine-driven sparks to a steadier oxytocin-driven closeness; relationships need ongoing tools and communication to adapt to changing bodies, energy, and life circumstances.

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A candid, relationship-focused show centered on how people form, sustain, and sometimes sabotage connections. Across recent episodes, the conversation swings from long-term intimacy, attachment, and therapy to dating dynamics, love bombing, and masculinity in modern dating. Guests range from relationship educators and wellness experts to creators with lived experiences, offering practical tools, personal stories, and frameworks that listeners can apply in their own relationships. The format blends personal reflection with expert perspective and occasional sponsor segments, making it approachable for people seeking deeper self-understanding or actionable relationship advice.

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