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What Healthy Couples Know That You Don't: Relationship Advice and Respect

Rhoda Sommer LCSW
Relationships
Mental Health
Communication
Trust
Conflict Resolution
Vulnerability
Self-Awareness
Emotional Intimacy
Personal Growth
Intimacy
Shame
Connection
Emotional Intelligence
Neuroplasticity
Emotional Resilience
Neuroscience
Communication In Relationships
Self-Forgiveness
Openness
Therapy

Relationships matter. Do you want to know the nitty gritty of what makes a relationship work? Get your answers to relationship questions. Learn how to keep respect alive & well, because lack of respect is why people get divorced. Learn what builds trust & how to recover from infidelity, drama or codependency. Advice from psychotherapist Rhoda Sommer based on over 35 years of working with couples. ... more

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Recent Guests

Frank Spinelli, MD
Physician, certified health coach, trauma-informed recovery expert, author
ReFrame platform; author of The Shame Compass
Episode: What Shame Is Really Trying to Tell You: The Surprising Key to Healing Trauma and Finding Yourself Again
Yossi Amram
Licensed clinical psychologist, CEO, leadership coach; author of Spiritually Intelligent Leadership
Awakenings SI / truemasculinity.org / genderinglove.org / awakeningsi.org
Episode: Why You Keep Having the Same Fight: Break the Relationship Patterns That Keep You Stuck?
Bridget Todd
Award-winning creator, host and producer at the intersection of technology, culture, and identity; creator of There Are No Girls on the Internet and AI in Real Life (Mozilla), AI ethics advocate
There Are No Girls on the Internet; IRL, AI in Real Life; Mozilla
Episode: Falling in Love With AI? The Future of Love, Connection & Human Relationships
Dr. D. Yvonne Young
Globally recognized authority in human behavior, leadership, psychology, and emotional mastery
Independent researcher/author
Episode: Unlocking Empathy: One Path to Richer Relationships
Amy Kurtz
Certified health coach, patient advocate, and speaker
Amy Kurtz – amykurtz.com; featured in Oprah Daily, Good Morning America, The Boston Globe
Episode: How to Thrive in Relationships When Chronic Illness Changes Everything
Simone Millisus
Best-selling author, international speaker, relationship innovator
Author of Relationship, Are You Sure You Want One? and other works
Episode: Why Your Relationship Isn't Working: The Hidden Trap of Expectations, Neediness & Fantasy
Laura Dabney
psychiatrist, relationship expert
relationshiprx.com
Episode: Unlocking Understanding: Thriving in Difficult Relationships with Personality Disorders
Rebecca Howard-Ude
Certified sex therapist, licensed LMHC in MA/CT/NY; co-host of The Love Lab Uncensored; author of Parents in Love, A Guide to Great Sex After Kids
Private practice / The Love Lab Uncensored / Under the Hood podcast
Episode: Unlock Lasting Desire: Secrets Revealed to Keep Desire Burning
John Richardson
Guest, FBI hostage negotiator and author, co-author of Never Settle: Persuasion and Negotiation Skills to Get What You Want
Black Swan Group / FBI hostage negotiation expertise
Episode: RELATIONSHIP GAME CHANGER: MASTER NEGOTIATION SKILLS WITH AN FBI EXPERT

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Rhoda Sommer
Host of What Healthy Couples Know That You Don't: Relationship Advice and Respect

Reviews

4.5 out of 5 stars from 386 ratings
  • Unhelpful chatter

    Unhelpful chatter. Unclear language. Not well edited.

    Apple Podcasts
    1
    Nicknamesuckazzz
    Canada5 months ago
  • I need this podcast

    I’ve learned so much from listening to this podcast. I listen to my favorite episodes more than once because there are so many takeaways. I personally like when Rhoda gives a lecture style podcast because it’s so thoughtful. I think the whole thing feels like she is just being herself instead of trying to sound a certain type of generic way. Love that.

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    A Buzzfeed app lover
    United States8 months ago
  • Best relationship podcast!

    Great content featuring a thoughtfully selected and diverse group of guest speakers. The profound, informed, and well-written questions posed to the guests ensure that we don’t miss out on any valuable insights. This demonstrates the Host’s commitment to being well-versed and thoroughly pre-studied on specialized topics, such as the speakers’ writing or their books. As a result, the discussion is guided and very well-informed, staying on topic without any unnecessary fluff. I appreciate this, as... more

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    Samus187
    United States8 months ago
  • Not sure,

    I feel like she is just reading from a book. Maybe I’m not far enough into the podcast. Episode 13 and just not feeling it.

    Apple Podcasts
    3
    Apparition565
    Canada8 months ago
  • Mechanical and Machine Like

    There’s nothing worse than listening to someone reading a chapter or off a script for 45min straight. Enlighten us by dropping in an opinion here and there. The podcast feels more like an audiobook.

    Apple Podcasts
    1
    Heavy Haul Driver
    United Statesa year ago

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Some listeners feel the host's delivery can be intense or scripted, impacting accessibility for some listeners.
Overall, the content is highly helpful for improving personal relationships and understanding complex topics in therapy and psychology.
The show provides deep, actionable relationship guidance without heavy ads or interruptions.
The host asks thoughtful, well-researched questions that surface valuable insights from diverse guests.
Guests are consistently high-caliber, offering practical strategies and evidence-based perspectives.

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What Shame Is Really Trying to Tell You: The Surprising Key to Healing Trauma and Finding Yourself Again
Q: What are the three biggest misconceptions about shame?
The distinctions between shame and guilt; that shame equals weakness; and the belief that shame should be eliminated rather than understood as information that can guide healing.
Unlocking Understanding: Thriving in Difficult Relationships with Personality Disorders
Q: How can people express anger in a relationship without hurting or belittling their partner?
Use a 'me-you-we' script: say 'I feel X when you do Y' to own the emotion, acknowledge the other person's perspective, and propose a collaborative solution rather than blaming, so the conversation stays constructive.
Unlocking Understanding: Thriving in Difficult Relationships with Personality Disorders
Q: What are the red flags or signs that someone may have a personality disorder?
Red flags include extreme reactions to closeness and distancing, difficulty handling intimacy, and patterns that repeat rather than single incidents; testing a date by noticing how someone responds to expectations and apologies can reveal these patterns.
RELATIONSHIP GAME CHANGER: MASTER NEGOTIATION SKILLS WITH AN FBI EXPERT
Q: How can people use curiosity to improve negotiations in intimate relationships?
Ask open-ended questions to uncover interests, reflect back what you hear, and avoid making assumptions, which builds understanding and collaborative problem-solving.
RELATIONSHIP GAME CHANGER: MASTER NEGOTIATION SKILLS WITH AN FBI EXPERT
Q: What practical steps can listeners take to reduce anxiety before difficult conversations?
Practice worst-case scenario planning, map out steps if the outcome is unfavorable, and engage in low-stakes drills to build confidence before tackling bigger issues.

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A relationship-focused show that pulls from psychology, therapy, and behavioral science to help couples understand and improve how they relate. Episodes frequently explore attachment, communication, vulnerability, and practical tools for healthier dynamics, often featuring clinicians, researchers, and coaches who translate complex concepts into actionable steps. Notable strengths include a rigorous guest lineup spanning neuroscience, trauma, chronic illness, and negotiation, plus a host known for asking targeted questions that surface concrete takeaways. Some reviews mention a powerful depth and no-ads format, while a few listeners critique the host's delivery or tone as being intense or scripted at times, suggesting the show may work best ... more

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2. Yossi Amram
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