The Secure Love Podcast with Julie Menanno

Julie Menanno

Emotionally Focused Therapy

Attachment Theory

Relationships

Couples Therapy

Vulnerability

Shame

Conflict Resolution

Divorce

Emotional Safety

Communication Skills

Relationship Dynamics

Communication Cycles

Communication

Communication Patterns

Parenting

Negative Communication Cycles

Avoidant Attachment

Anxious Attachment

Parenting Challenges

Emotional Support

Welcome to The Secure Love Podcast: Real-Time Couples Therapy with Julie Menanno. Julie Menanno is a licensed therapist committed to helping couples build secure, lasting connections through Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). In each episode, she works with a real couple and just like many of us, they're navigating life's challenges, raising kids, managing careers, and strengthening their relation... more

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Publishes	Weekly	Episodes	57	Founded	2 years ago
Number of Listeners		Categories	Health & FitnessMental HealthSociety & CultureRelationships

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Latest Episodes

S3 | Session 11: You Can't Problem Solve Your Way Out of Pain

When your partner is hurting, what is your immediate instinct? For most of us, it's to grab a toolbox. We want to solve the problem, clear up the misunderstanding, or offer the perfectly logical explanation that will make the pain go away. But what i... more

5 May 2026 • 1 hr 6 min

S3 | Session 10: Why It Feels So Hard to Ask Your Partner for Help

We are picking right back up with Rachel and Mike. Following Mike's admission of withholding the truth, Rachel is experiencing a very healthy, righteous anger. But today, we pivot away from blaming Mike's behavior and guide Rachel directly into her o... more

28 Apr 2026 • 52 min

S3 | Session 9: Resetting the TEMPO & Two Big Lies

Think about a time you caught your partner withholding the truth. If you've been there, you know the actual lie is only half the battle; the other half is the agonizing feeling of thinking you might be going crazy. Today, we tackle one of the most di... more

21 Apr 2026 • 54 min

S3 | Session 8: When Your Partner Makes Decisions Without You

We are picking right back up with Rachel and Mike. Today, we revisit a highly charged memory that perfectly illustrates their negative cycle: a unilateral family decision made during a massive winter storm that completely brushed past Rachel's fierce... more

14 Apr 2026 • 51 min

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Julie Menanno

Licensed therapist and host guiding real couples through Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) sessions to explore attachment, vulnerability, and secure love.

Reviews

4.9 out of 5 stars from 1k ratings

Eye-Opening and Supportive
This podcast really opened up my eyes to how I can show up differently in romantic relationships. I started listening to it when I was trying to save my last relationship, and immediately saw my own patterns and my partner’s patterns. If you want to find new ways to connect deeply with your partner, listen to all seasons of this podcast from start to finish. You will likely see yourself in one of the couples. For bonus work, read Julie’s book, Secure Love.
Apple Podcasts
5
Shawn_Rad
United States10 days ago
Just what I needed
I have felt lost for a while and Julie’s podcast has really been helping me sort out things that have been difficult for me for decades.
I encourage anyone who may listen to this podcast to listen without comparing every little detail in their own life. The questions being asked and the strategies being implemented are really what I take away from it. Of course I am not exactly Melissa, but I have learned so much about myself by just letting things hit me when they are similar. If you feel any... more
Apple Podcasts
5
Zara1223
United Statesa month ago
Book and practice
I listened to the book and listening to a grade 5 is amazing
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5
Gio202202
United States2 months ago
This is my favorite podcast
Anyone thinking of or currently in couples therapy should try this podcast. I also think it’s helpful as an individual, if you’re exploring your own attachment style and figuring out what behaviors don’t serve you anymore. I had been following social media, but found this podcast a few months after my spouse ended our marriage of 5 years, relationship of 11. We’d had couples therapy for probably 20 sessions across the year prior, featuring Gottman handouts and CBT, but we never did EFT like this... more
Apple Podcasts
5
Shadowcat007/coolcat
United States2 months ago
Just keep learning
2 seasons in and I’ve had so many insights and moments of resonance from this podcast. What a gift, to all of us siloed in our own negative cycles, to understand how common and how human they are. And then to get real actionable guidance on how to do the work. Thank you Julie and team 🙏
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5
Matt G in California
United States3 months ago

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Fans praise EFT-based approach and practical takeaways for couples.

Insightful and transformational for relationships and personal growth.

High-quality therapy insights in a real-time format that feels both educational and relatable.

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Apple Podcasts	#55	United States/Society & Culture/Relationships
Apple Podcasts	#52	United Kingdom/Society & Culture/Relationships
Apple Podcasts	#85	Canada/Society & Culture/Relationships
Apple Podcasts	#46	Australia/Society & Culture/Relationships
Apple Podcasts	#187	Germany/Society & Culture/Relationships
Apple Podcasts	#222	France/Society & Culture/Relationships

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S3 | Session 10: Why It Feels So Hard to Ask Your Partner for Help

Q: How do I help her anger while still validating my own feelings?

Validate her anger as a signal of hurt and need, while also naming your own fears and boundaries; regulate your own nervous system so you can stay present and offer empathy without getting overwhelmed.

S3 | Session 10: Why It Feels So Hard to Ask Your Partner for Help

Q: Hey Julie, recovering avoidant here. Can you give us an example of what validating the anxious partner's anger would look like in the moment?

Validate by acknowledging the validity of the anger and its meaning for safety, while not taking on blame; reflect the emotion and offer consistent support to stay present with their experience.

S3 | Session 11: You Can't Problem Solve Your Way Out of Pain

Q: One thing I see missing often is what to do after the validation. Validation and understanding triggers are important, but where are the practical solutions?

The host explains that validation and understanding are skills in themselves and that real work involves slowly sitting with the pain, identifying the underlying fear, and then coordinating steps to address the attachment needs, rather than rushing to solve the problem.

S3 | Session 5: What Does Your Fear Need?

Q: What is the core need Rachel's sadness is asking for, and how can Mike respond?

Validation of Rachel's feelings is identified as a primary need to counteract lifelong experiences of being told her pain didn't matter, with guidance for Mike to respond with patient acknowledgment and acceptance of mistrust while learning to support.

S3 | Session 1: Setting the TEMPO to Uncover Deep Wounds

Q: How do your moves in the cycle function as far as how they're trying to help your emotions?

Rachel explains that she's trying to get Mike to understand her needs and emotions through her responses.

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