Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

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Parenting

Child Development

Respectful Parenting

Emotional Regulation

Child Behavior

Family Dynamics

Parenting Techniques

Boundaries

Parenting Challenges

Emotional Intelligence

Parenting Strategies

Emotional Development

Resilience

Sibling Rivalry

Separation Anxiety

Independent Play

Discipline

Toddler Behavior

Whining

Strong-Willed Children

In the 25+ years Janet Lansbury has worked with children and parents, she's learned a lot. She's here to share it with you. Each episode of Unruffled addresses a reader's parenting issue through the lens of Janet's respectful parenting approach, consistently offering a perspective shift that ultimately frees parents of the need for scripts, strategies, tricks, and tactics. Janet is a parenting aut... more

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Publishes	Weekly	Episodes	458	Founded	11 years ago
Number of Listeners		Categories	ParentingKids & Family

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Latest Episodes

Connecting with Kids Shouldn't Be a Performance

A parent writes that her mother is constantly asking her bright 17-month-old to perform and grows frustrated when he doesn’t oblige. The truth is, we often think connecting with kids means entertaining them, getting them to laugh or, as in this grand... more

22 Sep 2026 • 22 min

Don’t Let School Be the End of Play

When school starts, our children’s days can quickly fill with classes, activities, homework, and screens, crowding out opportunities that are critical to their development and emotional health: play. A parent wonders whether full-time school means sa... more

15 Sep 2026 • 24 min • Most popular

End of the Day Crazies With Kids

Many of us imagine late afternoons or evenings with our children as the perfect time to wind down and connect after a busy day. Unfortunately, this is often precisely when our children need to unload the day’s stresses. Which means that instead of en... more

8 Sep 2026 • 27 min • Popular

The Counterintuitive Fix for Meltdowns at Drop-Off (and Other Hard Feelings)

A four-year-old melting down at school drop-off... A 21-month-old who's started pulling her own hair when she's frustrated or overwhelmed... Two very different situations—but the same missing piece. Janet explains why our instinct to soothe, distract... more

1 Sep 2026 • 24 min

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Recent Guests

Loryn Brantz

Author, artist, poet, and director; creator of Feminist Baby and It Had to Be You

Author/Illustrator, Jim Henson's Workshop projects

Episode: Handling Our Kids' Explosive Anger (with Loryn Brantz)

Melani Ladygo

RIE's executive director and longtime RIE associate, teaching parent, infant, and toddler classes.

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Episode: Why Parents Need RIE (with Melani Ladygo)

Lavinia Brown

Online coach focused on helping mothers overcome childhood trauma and connect with their emotions.

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Episode: Becoming Untriggered (with Lavinia Brown and Andrew Lynn)

Andrew Lynn

Online coach who specializes in assisting men with emotional trauma and personal development.

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Episode: Becoming Untriggered (with Lavinia Brown and Andrew Lynn)

Grace Lautman

A therapist, eating disorder clinician, and trauma specialist

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Episode: Eating Disorders, Healthy Body Image: What Parents Need to Know (With Grace Lautman, CN, LMHC)

Harry Grebler

A RIE associate and experienced parenting guide, trained in Pickler pedagogy and Waldorf education.

Episode: Sleep, Baby, Sleep (with Hari Grebler)

Dr. William Stixrud

Neuropsychologist, co-author of 'The Self-Driven Child' and 'What Do You Say?'

Episode: In an Age of Anxiety, How to Stop Worrying and Raise Less Stressed Kids (with Dr. William Stixrud)

Dr. Tina Payne Bryson

Author and parenting educator, co-author of "The Way of Play".

The Center for Connection

Episode: Play That Builds Skills and Bonds Us (with Dr. Tina Payne Bryson)

Elsa Chahin

President and CEO of Pickler-Loxy USA

Pickler-Loxy USA

Episode: The Joy in Letting Babies Move Freely (with Elsa Chahin)

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Janet Lansbury

Host of Unruffled; authority on respectful parenting; author and consultant promoting No Bad Kids and No Bad Kids Master Course.

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4.7 out of 5 stars from 5.9k ratings

Important for every parent
A great podcast the way Janet narrates is very captivating and sounds like a dear friend talking to you. I listened to her even before having my baby. I love listening to her daily as a daily affirmation:D
Thank you for the work you do.
Apple Podcasts
5
Mayalucid
Poland2 months ago
Useful and grounded
This is the only parenting podcast I listen to. Janet has such a simple way of addressing complex topics and I really appreciate how she approaches everyone, the children and adults with respect. She also helps parents advocate for themselves in their relationships with their children, which is a little different than some other approaches I’ve seen with “gentle parenting.” I definitely recommend this podcast!
Apple Podcasts
5
evangeline_etc
United States4 months ago
Great Anecdotal Suggestions for RIE Parenting
I came across Janet’s blog while searching for respectful authoritative parenting advice. After reading a few essays, I purchased the Master Class and started listening to the podcast. The way Janet reinforces parents’ confidence in relating to their children and handling specific situations is so helpful. Her presentation on the podcast is very casual and easy to absorb. I appreciate Janet’s work and the RIE approach. I find it refreshing compared to authoritarian advice from relatives. T... more
Apple Podcasts
5
Krystalpm
United States4 months ago
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Found this podcast through a parent group. It’s not always applicable to highly active, strong willed kids. The host’s vocal fry voice is grating on my nervous system. Her voice is all over the place. The info is good but it takes forever to get to the point.
Apple Podcasts
3
Ericagonzalez
United States6 months ago
Game changer
This is the simplest most resonant advice i’ve found which has given me the north star of recognising my own state rather than being swept away by my toddlers state!
Apple Podcasts
5
Salmacca
Australia8 months ago

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Critics occasionally note long episode lengths and debate medical/academic credibility, but common feedback highlights utility and compassionate approaches.

Many value the emphasis on honoring children's emotions without permissiveness.

Listeners praise the calm, non-judgmental guidance and practical strategies for real-life parenting.

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Apple Podcasts	#23	United States/Kids & Family/Parenting
Apple Podcasts	#97	United States/Kids & Family
Apple Podcasts	#17	United Kingdom/Kids & Family/Parenting
Apple Podcasts	#21	Canada/Kids & Family/Parenting
Apple Podcasts	#52	United Kingdom/Kids & Family
Apple Podcasts	#98	Canada/Kids & Family

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Connecting with Kids Shouldn't Be a Performance

Q: Here's this parent's question. Good morning, Janet. I was wondering if you could offer some guidance on how to handle an ongoing issue with my mom.

The guidance centers on calming, reflective, non-judgmental responses, setting boundaries around performance, and modeling a respectful way to interact with both the child and the grandparent. By observing, reflecting back what's happening, and choosing moments to intervene with warmth, you can protect the child while letting the grandparent feel seen and understood.

Can We Overcome Our Upbringing?

Q: How can I overcome my instincts, or how I was raised, to be able to be a better mother? Am I too late?

Janet reassures that it's never too late to change and outlines a plan to start practicing clear, confident boundaries with children and, where appropriate, with other adults, while staying compassionate and self-forgiving.

The Answer to Hitting

Q: What should we do when she talks about hitting or says things like she wants to hit until someone bleeds?

Recognize she's in a zone of dysregulation and misdirect the interaction toward connection and safety, rather than punishment; sit with her, validate her feelings, and communicate that you will help her through the uncomfortable moment while not allowing the behavior to continue.

The Answer to Hitting

Q: Hi Janet, I'm not really sure where to start. I somewhat know what is going on, but I feel very overwhelmed and defeated by the problem I'm having with my almost two and a half year old daughter.

The child's behavior is signaling overwhelm and a need for support; respond with empathy, acknowledge the feelings, and create a space where the child can express scary thoughts safely. Rather than forcing stop signals, help her feel seen and grounded, especially during the pregnancy transition.

How Forcing Kids to Do Stuff Backfires (And What to Do Instead)

Q: What should we do instead of physically restraining a child to brush their teeth?

Lead with a calm, casual approach, offer autonomy, place the task within a routine, and maintain a positive connection; acknowledge feelings, model behavior, and back off when needed, so the child feels ownership and cooperates willingly rather than being forced.

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A thoughtful, practice-oriented show focused on respectful parenting for infants and toddlers. Episodes center on validating children's feelings, establishing calm boundaries, and leading with connection rather than control, often reframing common caregiver struggles as opportunities for collaboration and growth. Across episodes, listeners hear concrete, non-punitive strategies rooted in the No Bad Kids framework, with a strong emphasis on secure attachment, empathy, and guiding children toward autonomy. The show often weaves in personal anecdotes, educational theory, and practical tips for navigating daily parenting challenges, transitions, and family dynamics, making it useful for parents, caregivers, and professionals seeking a calm, con... more

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