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So We’ve Been Told with Sahaj Kaur Kohli

Sahaj Kaur Kohli
Mental Health
Bicultural Identity
Cultural Expectations
Generational Trauma
Queerness
Family Relationships
Narcissism
Sexuality
Trauma
Immigrant Families
Immigrant Experiences
Family Secrets
South Asian Community
Cultural Narratives
Shame and Guilt
Pleasure
Kink Affirmation
Self-Compassion
Family Dynamics
Intergenerational Trauma

So We’ve Been Told is a bold take on wellness, love, and family by sharing what it means to live between cultures. In a new eight-part series, award-winning therapist Sahaj Kaur Kohli breaks down the stories we’ve been told about bicultural identity, relationships, and mental health. Featuring real talk, practical advice, expert wisdom and stories from her 250,000-strong community, Brown Girl Ther... more

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As a couples therapist, Sahaj Kaur Kohli talks about sex all the time with clients. But the truth is, she still struggles to talk about it in her own life. Sahaj and many other children of immigrants grew up with silence, shame, and secrecy around se... more

We’ve all heard we need boundaries to protect our peace, but what does that really look like in collectivist cultures? In this episode, therapist Sahaj Kaur Kohli challenges Western ideas of boundaries, unpacks common misconceptions, and explores wha... more

Do you feel guilty all the time? Or worry about abandoning where, and who, you come from? You’re not alone! Guilt is one of the main emotions therapist Sahaj Kaur Kohli sees adult children of immigrants struggle with. In this episode, Sahaj unpacks t... more

What does duty mean to you? For many of us, especially children of immigrants, duty is complicated. It can look like showing up for loved ones (even when it’s inconvenient), preserving cultural traditions, or fulfilling unspoken expectations. Sometim... more

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Kimmy Wu
Kink-affirming sex therapist and first-generation immigrant from Taiwan
Episode: Let’s Talk About Sex
Dr. Batja Mesquita
Dutch social psychologist and leading authority on cultural differences and emotions
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Episode: Why Guilt Feels So Heavy — And What to Do About It
Dr. Judith Joseph
Board-certified psychiatrist and researcher
Author of 'High Functioning, Overcome Your Hidden Depression and Reclaim Your Joy'
Episode: Is Your Immigrant Parent a Narcissist?

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Sahaj Kaur Kohli
Licensed therapist and founder of Brown Girl Therapy, Sahaj Kaur Kohli is the host and creator of the series, focusing on mental health, bicultural identity, and immigrant experiences. She brings a wealth of personal insight and professional expertise to the discussions, addressing complex themes with empathy and authenticity.

Reviews

4.8 out of 5 stars from 112 ratings
  • Not for real progress…

    This podcast offers ideas for the meek, good South Asian kids. If you don’t resonate with that and want more for your community and family, don’t accept breadcrumbs of progress. Sahaj’s advice will reframe until you are back where you started. Best avoid if you look want real change in your families.

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    sarika655555
    United States2 months ago
  • A Space and Sense of Belonging

    As a white immigrant in the U.S., I didn’t expect So We Have Been Told to speak so directly to my experience—but it does in many ways. The podcast explores identity, belonging, and the quiet complexities of living between cultures with so much thought and honesty. I often feel like I shift between versions of myself, depending on the space I’m in and sometimes even who I am with. And there’s a certain ache in not speaking my native language every day—like a part of me is going / gone quiet someh... more

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    Lug31
    United States5 months ago
  • Thank you !!

    This podcast made me feel so validated in my experience as a first generation daughter of immigrants. Thank you for creating this safe space ❤️

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    FirstGenLatinx
    United States6 months ago
  • I feel seen

    Sahaj tackles topics I hadn’t realised I even needed to deal with. She brings in diverse views, including her own insights and experiences in a non-judgmental and inclusive way. It’s like listening to a close friend and healing at the same time.

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    5
    Anon_Watermelon
    Netherlands6 months ago
  • Representation matters

    I am so grateful there is finally a podcast out there that speaks to me! Most podcasts for women my age feature white women, there's not a lot of women of color let alone child of immigrants from India just like myself. I feel so alone and isolated in my life experiences and like I'm figuring out the blueprint and writing it at the same time for my life with no one to relate to. Now I feel like someone has summarized my life experiences and is sharing it in a weekly episode. I am so grateful for... more

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    Thank you Brown Girl Therapy
    United States6 months ago

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Many find the discussions comforting, providing validation for their bicultural identities and family dynamics.
Listeners value the blend of expert wisdom and community stories shared, indicating the podcast is a much-needed resource.
Listeners express gratitude for finding a podcast that resonates with their experiences as children of immigrants.
The host's storytelling and advice are appreciated for their authenticity and relatability, making complex themes accessible.
The podcast is applauded for addressing complex emotional themes in an inclusive and healing manner.

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Let’s Talk About Sex
Q: What tips would you give to someone who feels shame around their sexuality?
Start by identifying what they feel shame about and engage in everyday sensory joys.
Let’s Talk About Sex
Q: How do you help people understand what their sexual desires are?
By encouraging curiosity, experimentation, and the recognition of their bodily responses.
Boundaries, Low Contact, or Estrangement: What’s Right for You?
Q: How can culturally sensitive language help in setting boundaries with family?
Using terms like 'dotted lines' instead of 'boundaries' can help parents feel less rejected and more open to discussions about personal limits.
Boundaries, Low Contact, or Estrangement: What’s Right for You?
Q: What are some tips for navigating relationships with other family members when you're estranged with one member?
When going no contact, consider how to maintain relationships with others by being clear about your limits and finding safe confidants.
Why Guilt Feels So Heavy — And What to Do About It
Q: Can guilt and shame be healthy?
Guilt and shame can serve as protective emotions that help maintain group inclusion; in the right context, they can be beneficial for interdependence and loyalty.

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