Jackie Faber: Inside My Journey

There was a time when I viewed harmful behavior almost entirely through the lens of unconscious survival.

Then I entered online abuse discourse… and suddenly everything became intentional, calculated, toxic, narcissistic, manipulative.

In this epis... more

In this episode, I talk about one of the biggest patterns I’ve uncovered within my relationships: over-functioning.

For years, I thought I was being loving.

Supportive.

Responsible.

I thought I was creating emotional safety.

But underneath it all, ... more

We’ve been taught to prioritize impact over intent.

To be aware.

To take responsibility.

To make sure what you say lands well.

And on the surface… that sounds healthy.

But what if the way this is being applied is actually training you to leave you... more

You stop people pleasing…

and suddenly you start seeing it everywhere.

You notice who can’t say no.

You notice who overextends.

You notice who says yes… and then feels resentful.

And it puts you in a weird position.

Do you adjust because you can s... more

You’ve told your story.

So why do you still feel stuck?

In this episode, I break down something no one in the healing space is talking about:

The difference between processing your story… and rehearsing it

Because there is a phase where telling yo... more

A client inside the Self-Safety Lab sent me a video this week about self-trust and internal safety.

The creator said something I’ve been speaking about a lot lately—that when you’re fully self-referenced, people can’t manipulate you or gaslight you.... more

We’re told that empathy means meeting people where they are.

Validating. Understanding. Holding space.

And I actually agree with that… but lately I’ve been running into something that doesn’t quite add up.

Because what happens when “where someone ... more

I wasn’t planning on recording this episode.

But something came up in my own relationship this week that I couldn’t ignore.

I found myself in a dynamic with zero pressure — no expectations, no timeline, no need for sex to go anywhere… and yet my bo... more