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We Need To Talk with Dr. Darcy Sterling

Dr. Darcy Sterling
Mental Health
Relationships
Therapy
Emotional Intelligence
Relationship Dynamics
Intimacy
Personal Growth
Communication Skills
Anxiety
Communication
Attachment Theory
Family Estrangement
Couples Therapy
Emotional Flexibility
Alcohol Consumption
Social Media
Trust
Psychology
Difficult Conversations
Mindfulness

The strengths that make you capable and successful can also sabotage your relationships. On We Need To Talk, Dr. Darcy Sterling helps you see where independence, honesty, high standards, and self-control start working against you in love. Each week, Dr. Darcy helps you take responsibility for the part that is yours—without taking responsibility for the whole relationship. If you are successful in ... more

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In relationships, good news should feel good to share.

But if your partner barely reacts, looks distracted, or points out the downside too fast, you can start wondering why you bothered telling them at all.

At first, you still share the small wins.... more

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The hardest emotionally unavailable person to leave is often the one who keeps giving you just enough to hope.

They disappear, come back, open up for one night, or give you one intimate moment that makes the whole relationship feel more meaningful t... more

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In relationships, you can come to your partner upset, hear a perfectly reasonable solution—and somehow feel even worse.

You wanted them to understand what hurt.

They started trying to make the problem go away.

What started as one frustrating mom... more

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In relationships, talking about sex is supposed to bring you closer. But when the same conversation keeps happening and nothing changes, sex can start to feel more like pressure than intimacy.

One of you feels rejected.

The other feels evaluated.

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Recent Guests

Dr. Harry Reis
Leading researcher in the science of close relationships
University/Academia (as described in episode)
Episode: Why You’ve Stopped Sharing Good News With Your Partner — And When That’s a Warning Sign
Amanda McCracken
Author and speaker on Limerence, author of When Longing Becomes Your Lover
Author, The Longing Lab (podcast)
Episode: Stop Chasing Emotionally Unavailable People — How to Break the Spell
Kim Polinder
Relationship coach, associate therapist, and author of Why We Fight
Author of Why We Fight
Episode: Why You Get Angrier When Your Partner Tries to Fix the Problem
Jordyn Hakes
Host of The Horny Housewife Podcast, discusses sex in long-term relationships
The Horny Housewife Podcast
Episode: Are You Talking Your Sex Life to Death? Why Trying to Fix It Can Kill Desire
Dr. Fred Luskin
Director of Stanford's Forgiveness Projects; author of Forgive for Good
Stanford University
Episode: Forgive, Don’t Forget: Why Trust Has to Be Rebuilt
Gary John Bishop
New York Times bestselling author of Un-Fuck Yourself; self-help voice
Gary John Bishop
Episode: Why Blaming Your Partner Keeps You Stuck
Dr. Rachel Goldman
Clinical psychologist, author of When Life Happens, NYU Grossman School of Medicine professor
New York University, NYU Langone Health
Episode: Why You Keep Self-Sabotaging — Even When You Know Better
Dan Siegel
Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at UCLA, expert in interpersonal neurobiology
UCLA School of Medicine
Episode: Why You Can’t Stop Overthinking About Your Relationship — and How to Finally Stop
Jennifer Finlayson-Fife
Relationship and sexuality therapist
Private practice
Episode: What You Risk When You Admit Your Fantasy to Your Partner

Host

Dr. Darcy Sterling
Licensed NYC-based therapist and host focusing on relationship health; known for practical, non-drama guidance.

Reviews

4.8 out of 5 stars from 48 ratings
  • Dr. Darcy is amazing!

    Love the show! Dr. Darcy is such an amazing host and always has interesting questions and guests on the show!

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    Victoria C.F
    United Statesa year ago
  • Love!

    Love the show! Darcy is super informed and entertaining to listen to.

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    Carolynyay
    United Statesa year ago
  • Love, Love, Love

    Finally, a podcast that I can trust! I have learned so much from Dr. Darcy and I look forward to each new episode.

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    Samsfurmom
    United States2 years ago
  • No one better!!!

    Dr. Darcy,

    The way you communicate is simply brilliant! Every single word serves your intention and message. The way you break down a complex emotion, like jealousy is an art form. You have “The Best” PC amongst millions! 100 stars ⭐️

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    ghurtyyee
    United States2 years ago
  • My favorite podcast show!!

    Not gonna lie, I’m not a podcast girl but this show completely changed my mind. The episode is full of stories, drama yet with actionable advice. Highly recommend for anyone that’s getting into podcast.

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    viviiiiianbabe
    United States3 years ago

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Guests are credible experts with real-world relevance
Many episodes address anxiety, trust, and relationship dynamics in relatable terms
Shows consistently balance psychology with actionable coaching
Listener feedback highlights engaging, thoughtful conversations
Host delivers clear, practical takeaways listeners can apply

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Talking Points

Recent interactions between the hosts and their guests.

Stop Chasing Emotionally Unavailable People — How to Break the Spell
Q: What counts as real change in a relationship as opposed to momentary shifts that feel like progress?
Real change shows up as sustained improvements in access, reciprocity, and commitment over time, not just occasional moments of closeness or communication; if the surface changes don't translate into deeper, consistent engagement, it's not true progress.
Stop Chasing Emotionally Unavailable People — How to Break the Spell
Q: Are you familiar with any tools that can help someone determine whether their feelings for a person land in a category where the relationship might actually grow or remain in a holding pattern?
The Intensity-Access-Reciprocity Test, a three-part framework, helps people assess how powerful the feeling is, how much of the other person's life is consistently accessible, and whether the relationship is being built mutually.
Why You Get Angrier When Your Partner Tries to Fix the Problem
Q: How do you know whether understanding has actually happened before you try to fix something?
Pause and directly ask if the partner feels understood, then proceed based on their response rather than assuming they want a solution. This helps ensure the conversation stays on the emotional experience rather than moving straight to problem-solving.
Forgive, Don’t Forget: Why Trust Has to Be Rebuilt
Q: How can someone know forgiveness has worked for them?
Forgiveness has worked when you are at peace with your life, can acknowledge the hurt without re-living it with constant blame, and can move forward with boundaries and without feeling controlled by past wounds.
Forgive, Don’t Forget: Why Trust Has to Be Rebuilt
Q: What makes people hesitant to explore forgiveness when they feel wronged?
People often resist because they see forgiveness as wrongly equated with excusing the hurt or letting the other off the hook, and they fear losing boundaries or accountability; the host and guest emphasize differentiating forgiveness from reconciliation and focusing on personal relief and boundary protection.

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2. Amanda McCracken
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