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Nope! We're Not Monogamous

Ellecia Paine
Non-Monogamy
Jealousy
Polyamory
Communication
Relationships
Emotional Safety
Boundaries
Non-Monogamous Relationships
Relationship Coaching
Trust
Self-Love
Kink
Communication Skills
Open Relationships
Connection
Personal Growth
Emotional Intelligence
BDSM
Consent
Emotional Growth

Ellecia Paine is a non-monogamy relationship coach who helps people navigate ENM (Enthusiastic non-monogamy), polyamory, open relating, swinging, kink, tantra and life in general. Listen in to the candid conversations that give you a peek into the inner lives of other non-monogamous folks. Hear how they've overcome challenges like jealousy, insecurity, and social scrutiny. And celebrate with them ... more

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What if the thing you're craving most isn't another dating app, another relationship book, or another set of rules?

What if it's community?

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Do you ever feel like everyone else in polyamory got the compersion memo except you?

Like you're supposed to be thrilled when your partner is excited about someone else... and if you're not, maybe you're doing non-monogamy wrong?

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Have you ever rehearsed a hard conversation in your head… and then the second you try to have it, everything comes out wrong?

Maybe you shut down.

Maybe you get defensive.

Maybe you try so hard not to sound “too much” that you stop saying what you a... more

Have you ever noticed how jealousy can completely hijack your body?

Your thoughts race. Your chest tightens, You start looking for signs something is wrong.

And suddenly you’re spiraling before your logical brain can even catch up.

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Kate Heskett
Poet, writer, canoe guide; contributor to Pillow Talk
Pillow Talk anthology
Episode: Showing Up Alone to a Swingers Event Changed Everything - Ep. 150 with Kate Heskett
Candace Sogren
A lawyer, entrepreneur, and author of Polyagony who advocates for normalizing non-monogamy conversations.
Episode: Poly Agony: The Mistakes, Repair, and Reality of Raising Kids While Open with Candace Sogren
Dr. Joy Berkheimer
Therapist and clinical sexologist
Episode: The Real Glow-Up: Self-Love, Desire, and Ethical Non-Monogamy with Dr. Joy Berkheimer, EP. 144
Natalie Davis
Editor of Polyamory Today and author of a new book, Saying Yes, My Adventures in Non-Monogamy
Episode: Saying Yes to Non-Monogamy with Natalie Davis, EP. 143
Sharon Marie Scott
Erotic Mystic, author, and spiritual innovator
Episode: The Taboo Side of Non-Monogamy: Pleasure, Healing, and Desire with Sharon Marie Scott
Dr. Dan Sneider
Couples therapist specializing in non-monogamous relationships
Episode: The Relationship Skills That Actually Matter in Non-Monogamy with Dr. Dan Sneider Ep. 136
Jessica Morgenthaler
Therapist and coach specializing in ethical non-monogamy
ICU Transformative Consulting
Episode: Rethinking “Success” in Polyamory with Jessica Morgenthaler Ep. 134
Jana Danielson
Central health and pelvic floor wellness expert, founder of Bloom Better and creator of the Cooch Ball
Bloom Better
Episode: Pelvic Floors, Orgasms, and Why We Don’t Discriminate Against the Monogamous with Jana Danielson
Carla Wainwright
Holistic wellness coach and sexual awakening facilitator
Episode: Midlife, Menopause & Non-Monogamy: Reclaiming Pleasure, Power & Desire with Carla Wainwright EP. 126

Host

Ellecia Paine
Host and non-monogamy relationship coach; guides listeners through jealousy, boundaries, and communication within ENM and polyamory spaces; often features coaching programs and guest conversations.

Reviews

4.7 out of 5 stars from 122 ratings
  • Just what I needed. Seriously.

    I love the way your episodes give such practical advice. No hot air, just truth!!

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    ginagaebl
    United Statesa month ago
  • New to poly

    As someone who is new to the polyamory community this podcast has really helped me learn way of how to cope with my emotions and be more open about my partner having other relationships outside of the relationship we have.

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    Andy122378
    United States8 months ago
  • Informative and helpful!

    Really appreciate the depth of information shared on this podcast. Very educational and helpful!

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    Dan13386
    United States8 months ago
  • Well oiled Podcast

    You will love this Podcast , especially if you are interested in learning about non monogamy.

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    travisXR1200
    United Statesa year ago
  • Awesome Host!!

    Ellecia Paine always has great information to share and brings in awesome guests. I particularly loved the episode about Ashley Madison. It was fascinating!!

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    XanetP
    United Statesa year ago

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Poly Agony: The Mistakes, Repair, and Reality of Raising Kids While Open with Candace Sogren
Q: What are some common mistakes people make when they first choose to open up in non-monogamous relationships?
Common mistakes include a lack of clarity on why they are exploring non-monogamy, leading to poorly defined agreements and boundaries.
Poly Agony: The Mistakes, Repair, and Reality of Raising Kids While Open with Candace Sogren
Q: What is your relationship with non-monogamy?
I've been ethically non-monogamous for the last 20 years and I didn't want to be limited to loving one person.
The Real Glow-Up: Self-Love, Desire, and Ethical Non-Monogamy with Dr. Joy Berkheimer, EP. 144
Q: What advice would you give to someone wanting to explore their desires?
Consider going to spaces like swingers clubs, which can provide high consent and respect, and allow for exploration in a safe environment.
The Real Glow-Up: Self-Love, Desire, and Ethical Non-Monogamy with Dr. Joy Berkheimer, EP. 144
Q: What are some common struggles people face when transitioning to non-monogamy?
People often know what they don't want but struggle to identify what they do want, and the process can feel reckless but is necessary for exploration.
The Real Glow-Up: Self-Love, Desire, and Ethical Non-Monogamy with Dr. Joy Berkheimer, EP. 144
Q: How did non-monogamy become a part of your world?
Dr. Joy shares her journey into non-monogamy, starting with her realization after her second marriage that she wanted to embrace being non-monogamous and her experiences with swinging and polyamory.

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These episodes center on practical guidance for navigating relationships that include non-monogamy, polyamory, swinging, and ENM. Across conversations and solo sessions, the host blends coaching frameworks with personal stories to unpack jealousy, emotional regulation, boundaries, and honest communication. Tools like I statements, nervous-system awareness, and needs-based dialogue are showcased, often with actionable steps and concrete exercises. A notable pattern is the sustained emphasis on self-trust, consent, and slow, embodied approaches to relational growth, plus ongoing invitations to coaching programs and community support. The show frequently features guests and case studies that illustrate real-world dynamics, from metamour harmon... more

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