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Mistakes Were Made

Sarah & Alex
Polyamory
Non-Monogamy
Relationships
Parenting
Jealousy
Relationship Anarchy
Communication
Community Support
Consent
Loneliness
Manners
Boundaries
Political Engagement
Men's Issues
Performance Anxiety
Conflict Resolution
Toxic Masculinity
Communication In Relationships
Non-Monogamous Relationships
Vulnerability

Non monogamy for imperfect people. Hosted by a queer therapist and her husband of 15 years. Sarah & Alex share their experiences opening their marriage, and interview guests about the struggles & rewards of doing relationships your own way. Mistakes Were Made is part advice, part confession, part culture critique. But it's all about learning from our missteps and stumbling toward liberation. Follo... more

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Therapist and 'Crush Coach" Calvin Burnap returns to talk about the dangers of abandoning yourself, the importance of internal boundaries, and why being ice cold in breakups is actually generous.

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In this mini episode Sarah and Alex try to figure out who has a tougher time in polyamory.

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Melt Music & Mutual Aid Fair | When women choose non-monogamy: 'It's an opportunity for more integration'

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Now that we've actually read the book…there's even more to say about Lindy West's Adult Braces. Spoiler alert: it is extremely fucking good.

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Sarah and Alex explore the seven stages of playparties, from abject horror to skepticism to curiosity. And then Sarah recouts her first time getting in the mix.

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Recent Guests

Calvin Burnap
Second-time guest, therapist and meditation teacher described as walk partner, gardening mentor, and Crush Coach
Independent practitioner/therapist
Episode: Ep 77: Stop People Pleasing with Calvin Burnap
Sophie Lucido Johnson
Award-winning cartoonist and writer based in Chicago.
Author of "Kin: The Future of Family"
Episode: Ep 66: Kin, Family and Community Love with Sophie Lucido Johnson
Dr. Nicole Thompson
Queer sex and relationship psychotherapist, founder of The Pleasure Practice
The Pleasure Practice
Episode: Ep 63: Jealousy, Anarchy and Psychedelics with Dr Nicole Thompson
Elizabeth Cunningham
Panelist with a background in gender, sexuality, and politics.
Episode: Ep 62: MWM Live at Liberating Love Festival
Dean Spade
Writer, activist and advocate for queer and trans liberation based in racial and economic justice
Seattle University School of Law
Episode: Ep 51: Love in a F*cked Up World with Dean Spade
Reagan Jackson
Activist, author, artist, and karaoke singer.
Episode: Ep 47: The Monogamous Skeptic Returns! Special Guest Reagan Jackson
Mattise Wood
Queer poly flexible barista in school to be a drama therapist and currently on a softball team.
Episode: Ep 40: Gen Poly with Mattise Wood
Maxx Hill
Teacher, graphic designer, and caretaker of the Relationship Anarchy Smorgasbord
Episode: Ep 38: Relationship Anarchy with Maxx Hill
Dr. Eric FitzMedrud
Silicon Valley based psychotherapist focusing on men's issues
Private Practice
Episode: Ep 32: How Men Can Date Better with Dr. Eric FitzMedrud

Hosts

Sarah
Host, queer therapist, writer; focuses on relationship dynamics, activism, and community.
Alex
Co-host, Sarah's husband; discusses openness, boundaries, and practical relationship dynamics.

Reviews

4.6 out of 5 stars from 66 ratings
  • dear hosts

    In the word "scintillating" the C is silent. Sounds like "sintillating." Not "skintillating."

    Apple Podcasts
    1
    Stringzen1
    United States2 months ago
  • Raw dog

    Can’t wait for the episode where they discuss how Alex lies about condom use and then exposes all his partners to an STD! Mistakes were made! Lololololol

    Apple Podcasts
    1
    SexualHorrorFilm
    United Statesa year ago
  • Poignant and vulnerable

    I’ll often think about episodes for days after I’ve listened to them. Being willing to learn from mistakes is easier said than done, nevermind air them for others to learn from. The humility and generosity of this goes noticed and appreciated. Thank you!

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    awe_seeka
    United States3 years ago
  • My new favorite mistake

    Authentic. Vulnerable. Nuanced. Thank you for sharing your mistakes and what you learned from them and in turn helping us all to learn.

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    Mistake Fangrrl
    United States4 years ago

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Listeners praise the vulnerability and humility in discussing mistakes and relationship growth.
Some episodes attract strong opinions or critiques, particularly around sensitive topics like sex and monogamy.
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Fans appreciate nuanced conversations that blend personal storytelling with research-based insights.

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Ep 53: Good Grief with Queer Chaplain Kam
Q: How do you work with people when they come to you with loss?
Kam describes building a safe container for discussing taboo topics while recognizing the natural relationship to change.
Ep 53: Good Grief with Queer Chaplain Kam
Q: How did you get into this type of work?
Kam shares their mixed faith background and experiences that led them to spirituality and chaplaincy.
Ep 46: Swinging and Sex Parties
Q: Can you just do some defining of terms for us?
Swinger evokes an older term, while lifestyle includes more requests for consent and can encompass both swinging couples and poly couples.
Ep 46: Swinging and Sex Parties
Q: What inspired you to start that?
I wanted to create an accepting environment for women and others to feel comfortable and meet like-minded individuals.
Ep 38: Relationship Anarchy with Maxx Hill
Q: What is relationship anarchy?
Relationship anarchy is about applying principles of self-organization and autonomy to all kinds of relationships, focusing on customization rather than adhering to traditional norms.

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This show centers on non-monogamy, relationships, and personal growth, blending candid confessions with analysis of culture, media portrayals, and relationship dynamics. Episodes frequently explore boundaries, consent, jealousy, and community-building, often through the hosts' own experiences and in-depth conversations with guests who bring expertise in sexuality, psychology, or feminist perspectives. A standout quality is the willingness to tackle complex, sometimes uncomfortable topics with warmth, humor, and practical takeaways, making it useful for listeners navigating unconventional relationship paths or seeking thoughtful discussions about love, identity, and community. The format often balances vulnerability with actionable insights ... more

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2. Sophie Lucido Johnson
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4. Elizabeth Cunningham
5. Dean Spade
6. Reagan Jackson
7. Mattise Wood
8. Maxx Hill

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