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Mistakes Were Made

Sarah & Alex
Polyamory
Non-Monogamy
Relationships
Parenting
Consent
Jealousy
Relationship Anarchy
Communication
Community Support
Loneliness
Manners
Boundaries
Political Engagement
Men's Issues
Performance Anxiety
Conflict Resolution
Toxic Masculinity
Communication In Relationships
Non-Monogamous Relationships
Vulnerability

Non monogamy for imperfect people. Hosted by a queer therapist and her husband of 15 years. Sarah & Alex share their experiences opening their marriage, and interview guests about the struggles & rewards of doing relationships your own way. Mistakes Were Made is part advice, part confession, part culture critique. But it's all about learning from our missteps and stumbling toward liberation. Follo... more

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Masculinity seems to be having a moment. But what does it even mean? Sarah & Alex talk masculine archtypes and wonder if poly creates the conditions for a hero's journey with no end.

Mentioned in the episode:

Carl Jung | The Will to Change, by b... more

Alex and Sarah's kids grab the mic to discuss how being the children of poly parents impacts them -- from having to explain to babysitter what poly is, to their experience of rolling breakups. And their parents explore the uncomfortable possiblity th... more

The founder of Seattle's fastest-growing non-monogamous community The Pleasure Suite joins to talk about fostering safe, consent-forward spaces that are fun and sexy af.

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The Pleasure Suite | FRIES - 5 Pillars of Consent... more

Sarah and Alex delve into Jungian analysis and find out that sometimes it's our darker parts that bring us closer together with partners. If you've felt yourself struggling once New Relationship Energy starts to wear off, this might be the episode fo... more

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Recent Guests

Cassandra Schwartz
Founder of Pleasure Suite, a community for non-monogamous folks in Seattle
Pleasure Suite
Episode: Inside The Pleasure Suite with Cassandra Schwartz | Ep 81
Tabitha Kirkland
Polyparent, brain expert, Substack writer, and psychology professor
Independent/Self-described roles
Episode: Coming Out as Poly with Tabitha Kirkland | Ep 78
Calvin Burnap
Second-time guest, therapist and meditation teacher described as walk partner, gardening mentor, and Crush Coach
Independent practitioner/therapist
Episode: Stop People Pleasing with Calvin Burnap | Ep 77
Sophie Lucido Johnson
Award-winning cartoonist and writer based in Chicago.
Author of "Kin: The Future of Family"
Episode: Ep 66: Kin, Family and Community Love with Sophie Lucido Johnson
Dr. Nicole Thompson
Queer sex and relationship psychotherapist, founder of The Pleasure Practice
The Pleasure Practice
Episode: Ep 63: Jealousy, Anarchy and Psychedelics with Dr Nicole Thompson
Elizabeth Cunningham
Panelist with a background in gender, sexuality, and politics.
Episode: Ep 62: MWM Live at Liberating Love Festival
Dean Spade
Writer, activist and advocate for queer and trans liberation based in racial and economic justice
Seattle University School of Law
Episode: Ep 51: Love in a F*cked Up World with Dean Spade
Reagan Jackson
A dating coach specializing in helping marginalized women.
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Episode: Ep 48: BONUS episode: Why you need a dating strategy with Reagan Jackson
Mattise Wood
Queer poly flexible barista in school to be a drama therapist and currently on a softball team.
Episode: Ep 40: Gen Poly with Mattise Wood

Hosts

Sarah
Queer therapist, parent, writer, and activist
Alex
Sarah's husband and co-parent

Reviews

4.6 out of 5 stars from 68 ratings
  • dear hosts

    In the word "scintillating" the C is silent. Sounds like "sintillating." Not "skintillating."

    Apple Podcasts
    1
    Stringzen1
    United States7 months ago
  • Raw dog

    Can’t wait for the episode where they discuss how Alex lies about condom use and then exposes all his partners to an STD! Mistakes were made! Lololololol

    Apple Podcasts
    1
    SexualHorrorFilm
    United States2 years ago
  • Poignant and vulnerable

    I’ll often think about episodes for days after I’ve listened to them. Being willing to learn from mistakes is easier said than done, nevermind air them for others to learn from. The humility and generosity of this goes noticed and appreciated. Thank you!

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    awe_seeka
    United States3 years ago
  • My new favorite mistake

    Authentic. Vulnerable. Nuanced. Thank you for sharing your mistakes and what you learned from them and in turn helping us all to learn.

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    Mistake Fangrrl
    United States5 years ago

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Ep 53: Good Grief with Queer Chaplain Kam
Q: How do you work with people when they come to you with loss?
Kam describes building a safe container for discussing taboo topics while recognizing the natural relationship to change.
Ep 53: Good Grief with Queer Chaplain Kam
Q: How did you get into this type of work?
Kam shares their mixed faith background and experiences that led them to spirituality and chaplaincy.
Ep 46: Swinging and Sex Parties
Q: Can you just do some defining of terms for us?
Swinger evokes an older term, while lifestyle includes more requests for consent and can encompass both swinging couples and poly couples.
Ep 46: Swinging and Sex Parties
Q: What inspired you to start that?
I wanted to create an accepting environment for women and others to feel comfortable and meet like-minded individuals.
Ep 38: Relationship Anarchy with Maxx Hill
Q: What is relationship anarchy?
Relationship anarchy is about applying principles of self-organization and autonomy to all kinds of relationships, focusing on customization rather than adhering to traditional norms.

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Candid conversations about non-monogamy, polyamory, and building intimate relationships outside conventional expectations. Sarah, a queer therapist, and her husband Alex draw on their experience opening their marriage, combining personal stories and therapeutic perspectives with cultural critique and practical discussion of topics such as jealousy, boundaries, consent, parenting, gender, and community.

The format alternates between host-led discussions and interviews with therapists, academics, writers, and people with hands-on experience in non-monogamous communities. Its distinctive approach is self-critical and grounded in imperfect real-life choices: relationship structures are examined alongside the effects of trauma, power, and socia... more

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