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Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services

Luke Gordon with Choose Recovery Services
Betrayal Trauma
Recovery
Emotional Healing
Addiction Recovery
Choose Recovery Services
Therapy
Addiction
Authenticity
Intimacy
Vulnerability
Toxic Masculinity
Self-Compassion
Relationships
Shame
Sexual Addiction
Somatic Healing
Breaking Through Denial
Empathy
Mental Health
Emotional Maturity

Beyond the Facade explores authenticity, healing, and recovery from betrayal trauma, sexual addiction, and infidelity. Host Luke Gordon, cofounder of Choose Recovery Services, and his guests share tools for addiction recovery, relationship repair, and emotional healing. Learn to rebuild trust, live with integrity, and create authentic connections as you heal from pain and go Beyond the Facade.

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You've read the books. Gone to therapy. Joined groups. Learned the language of recovery. And yet, you're still stuck.

In this episode, we explore a painful question many men quietly carry:

"Why am I still struggling?"

This week we unpack why recov... more

What happens when the acting out stops—but everything still feels broken?

This week Luke and Scott Blundo (fellow Choose Recovery Services coach) explore the difference between sobriety and recovery.

Many betrayed partners expect life to improve on... more

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Why does an emotionally shut down man struggle to change—even when he genuinely wants to?

In this follow-up episode, Luke and Alana respond to listener questions about emotional shutdown, nervous system healing, and what recovery actually looks like... more

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What actually makes a good CSAT therapist?

In this episode, Luke Gordon and Jacob Fletcher (CSAT and fellow Choose Recovery Services coach), unpack the major differences between recovery approaches in pornography addiction and compulsive sexual beha... more

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Recent Guests

Ryan Collins
Guest who shares his recovery journey and leadership in a men's group
Recovery community member
Episode: 95: Humility in Recovery: Why Men Protect Their Identity After Betrayal - with Ryan Collins
Steven Roccazzella
Breathwork practitioner trained in Wim Hof Method
Independent breathwork coach
Episode: 92: Breathwork and Somatic Healing: How to Reconnect With Your Body - with Steven Roccazzella
Hallie Roderick
Professional in betrayal recovery and part of Choose Recovery Services team
Choose Recovery Services
Episode: 90: The Truth About Conflict in Relationships (Especially After Betrayal)
Michelle Mays
Relational Recovery Institute / author of The Betrayal Bind
Episode: 77: The Betrayal Bind with Michelle Mays: Healing the Attachment Wound After Infidelity
Izzy Williams
Coach specializing in betrayal trauma recovery for women and couples seeking restoration in their marriages
Choose Recovery Services
Episode: 67: What Real Recovery Looks Like to Your Partner
Sy Bee
Coach at Choose Recovery Services with a background in addiction and recovery.
Choose Recovery Services
Episode: 60: Find Out What You Are Capable Of - with Sy Bee
Stephen Thomas
A new coach with Choose Recovery Services, experienced in leading recovery programs.
Choose Recovery Services
Episode: 59: A Deeper Dive Into Objectification - with Stephen Thomas
Hope Ray
Therapist and creator of the Dyer model focusing on entitlement and recovery
Self-employed
Episode: 56: Understanding Entitlement vs. Authentic Needs
Hali Roderick
Facilitator of the Help Her Heal group
Choose Recovery Services
Episode: 54: Why Isn't She Healing Yet? 3 Myths Men Need to Unlearn

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Luke Gordon
Host of Beyond the Facade, cofounder of Choose Recovery Services

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77: The Betrayal Bind with Michelle Mays: Healing the Attachment Wound After Infidelity
Q: How do attachment ambivalence and the dysregulated nervous system interact during recovery?
Attachment ambivalence is a physiological, bodily-based response where the distress from betrayal triggers a tug between reaching out and protecting oneself. The attachment system wants closeness for safety, while the threat system seeks distance or defense. Recovery involves naming these states, asking for what is needed, and maintaining consistency and attunement rather than overcorrecting with blame or withdrawal.
45: Applying Monastic Discipline to Daily Recovery
Q: How do you measure consistency compared to perfectionism?
Perfection is unattainable, consistency produces results more gently.
45: Applying Monastic Discipline to Daily Recovery
Q: What do you think about self-care having to do with recovery?
It's taken on a holistic view, including quality of physical and spiritual health.
31: Individual vs. Couples Work - Where Do We Start?
Q: What would look like for the individual seeking recovery doing their individual work?
It involves understanding core values and triggers, finding worth independently and prioritizing personal growth over merely pleasing their partner.
31: Individual vs. Couples Work - Where Do We Start?
Q: Can you give examples for both of a loop and a mesh?
A loop shows a reactive disconnection, where one partner decides not to communicate, while enmeshment is where partners are so intertwined they cannot distinguish their own feelings from each other's.

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