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Psychology Of Desire
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The Erotic Realm is the world's leading Erotic Psychology podcast, exploring the psychology of desire, kink, intimacy and erotic identity through conversations with kinksters, researchers, educators and experts.

Hosted by Emma, Sexologist and founder of Psychology of Desire, each episode explores the erotic realm of an individual one on one with a deep dive into their erotic psychology.

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Latest Episodes

What happens when the kink you're having is no longer the kink you actually want?

In this episode I'm joined by RednBlack to explore the psychology of ownership, Total Power Exchange, sadism and erotic identity.

After years within kink, Red experie... more

Can a man learn to be Dominant — or is dominance something you either have or you don't?

In this episode I'm joined by Justin, founder of The Dominance Academy, to explore the psychology of male dominance, masculinity and consensual power exchange. more

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What happens when you love each other — but you don't want the same things sexually?

In this episode I'm joined by Amanda Dames, The Kink Consultant, to explore the psychology of mismatched desire, sexual compatibility and kink in relationships.

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What's missing when the standard rules of kink assume everybody's brain works the same way?

In this episode Auntie Vice returns to explore the intersection of BDSM, neurodivergence and mental health — and her new book, Kinky & Complicated.

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Recent Guests

Justin Adams
Founder of The Dominance Academy
The Dominance Academy
Episode: #134 The Psychology of Male Dominance: Justin on Power, Masculinity & Submission
Amanda Dames
The Kink Consultant, sex and relationship coach specializing in kink and mismatched desire in couples
The Kink Consultant / Sematica
Episode: #133 The Psychology of Mismatched Desire: The Kink Consultant Amanda Dames on Sex & Relationships
Rebecca Blanton
Kink writer and educator; author of Kinky & Complicated
Love Letters to a Unicorn / Rebecca Blanton
Episode: #132 Kink & Neurodivergence: BDSM, Mental Health & Consent with Auntie Vice
Rain DeGrey
sexuality and kink educator, performer
Kink education and performance communities
Episode: #130 Owning Your Kink: Living Authentically, Cults & Consent with Rain DeGrey
Judith Swack
Biochemist and immunologist turned psychologist and mind-body practitioner; creator of Healing from the Body Level Up (HBLU)
Healing from the Body Level Up (HBLU)
Episode: #129 Desire and Your Body: Judith Swack on Shame, Trauma & Sexuality
Desmond (Rapidash)
Pony play practitioner and persona creator
Independent kink practitioner
Episode: #127 The Psychology of Pony Play: Rapidash on Transformation, Submission & Pony Space
Annette Benedetti
Sex and intimacy coach; host of Talk Sex with Annette
Talk Sex with Annette
Episode: #126 365 Days of Orgasms: Pleasure, Desire & the Psychology of Orgasm with Annette Benedetti
Ally Iseman
Relationship coach, non-monogamy educator, and founder of Passport to Pleasure
Passport to Pleasure
Episode: #125 Erotic Jealousy, Non-Monogamy & Your Passport 2 Pleasure with Ally Iseman
Melissa M. Wilcox
Scholar of religion, gender and sexuality; author and researcher focusing on spirituality within BDSM and kink communities
University of California, Riverside (UCR) / Faculty in Religious Studies
Episode: #124 The Psychology of Sacred Kink: BDSM, Spirituality & Ritual with Melissa M. Wilcox

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Emma
Host of The Erotic Realm, Sexologist and founder of Psychology of Desire

Reviews

3.6 out of 5 stars from 171 ratings
  • Fantastic show!

    A very insightful and real deep dive into kink and community. I love this show.

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    The_Queensman
    Australia6 months ago
  • Tedious

    Despite the content and the presenter’s background in the subject, the pace is slow slow slow. The presenter sound like she is reading from a script, the guests are variable in interest and quality, and the episode are generally far too long. Needs production values and editing.

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    John626206
    Australia7 months ago
  • Informative, Fun, and Interesting

    The interviews focus on the experience of each guest and uniquely meets them where they are at in their erotic journey. It’s so nice to hear perspectives and about roles that might not resonate with me for play but would love to know more about.

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    TxLadySage
    United Statesa year ago
  • Wow so fascinating!

    I’m a few episodes in and can’t wait to get through the catalogue. I like how Emma creates a calm and safe space for sharing, I’m learning alot.

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    annie rainflower
    Australiaa year ago

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Pacing and production quality vary; some episodes feel lengthy or episodic in style.
Calm, safe space for sharing deep personal experiences, making listeners eager to explore more catalog
Interviews meet guests where they are in their erotic journey, offering varied perspectives even for listeners with different interests.
Insightful and real deep dives into kink and community; listeners appreciate candid conversations.

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#133 The Psychology of Mismatched Desire: The Kink Consultant Amanda Dames on Sex & Relationships
Q: How do you approach helping couples reconcile these differences?
I help them articulate desires, map them into a desire profile, and use five categories of strategies—communicating, disengaging temporarily, doing activities separately, trying something together, or having sex despite the mismatch—while prioritizing mutual respect and safety.
#133 The Psychology of Mismatched Desire: The Kink Consultant Amanda Dames on Sex & Relationships
Q: What do you mean by mismatched desire in practical terms?
It's about how, when you choose to be intimate, partners have different fantasies, levels of arousal, and ways they want to be touched, not simply different libido. The goal is to meet in the middle and feel seen, respected, and prioritized.
#130 Owning Your Kink: Living Authentically, Cults & Consent with Rain DeGrey
Q: You mentioned that you're a strap-on specialist. I don't think we've had a strap-on specialist on the podcast before. What is it about strap-ons that you love so much?
Strap-ons opened up a lifetime of sexual exploration for me, allowing control, creativity, and a way to express dominance and nurturing in a single tool. The process of stagecraft—setting up the scene, choosing harnesses, and guiding a bottom through a shared fantasy—feels almost magical, and the intense, mind-clearing focus it induces is unmatched. It also enabled me to push into more extreme experiences safely within studio settings with proper supports and boundaries.
#127 The Psychology of Pony Play: Rapidash on Transformation, Submission & Pony Space
Q: What is your peak erotic experience as a pony and why does it stand out?
Being taken out in full transformative gear for the first time at 2017 events, where the transformation was complete, the crowd acknowledged the majestic pony Rapidash, and the intimate moment with the owner created a powerful, shared experience that solidified the reality of pony play for him.
#124 The Psychology of Sacred Kink: BDSM, Spirituality & Ritual with Melissa M. Wilcox
Q: What has surprised you most about interviews with kink practitioners about sacred experiences?
She notes that sacred experiences in kink are deeply individual and can occur at climax, during acts of bondage, or in acts of service, challenging simplistic divides between religion and sexuality.

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Across recent episodes, the show consistently centers erotic psychology, sexuality education, and relationship dynamics within kink-informed contexts. Listeners hear intimate conversations with researchers, educators, and practitioners who unpack desire, consent, power exchange, attachment, and the social stigma surrounding non-normative sexuality, often weaving in practical guidance for communication, safety, and boundary-setting. Notable throughlines include tantra and energy work, Shibari and artistic practice, online communities and platform dynamics, trauma and healing in kink, and how culture shapes erotic identity. The format tends to combine personal storytelling with actionable insights, making it a compelling resource for professi... more

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2. Amanda Dames
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4. Rain DeGrey
5. Judith Swack
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