The Desire Gap: Real Solutions for Mismatched Libidos
Laura Jurgens, Ph.D.Dr. Laura Jurgens is a multi-certified intimacy coach, desire and arousal specialist, and former research professor who specializes in desire, arousal, and body-based intimacy solutions. Every episode delivers the practical, somatic tools that generic relationship advice and most couples therapy miss entirely — because desire and pleasure challenges aren't fixed by talking more. They're fixed by w... more
| Publishes | Weekly | Episodes | 115 | Founded | 2 years ago |
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| Number of Listeners | Categories | Mental HealthHealth & FitnessSexuality | |||
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Laura’s work is insightful, grounding, and refreshingly practical. She breaks down topics in a way that’s easy to understand and genuinely implement, offering simple, compassionate steps that help you reconnect with yourself. It’s a thoughtful, accessible listen for anyone who wants a deeper, more honest connection with their own desire.
Apple Podcasts5Amy @ Burnout-Free Me
United States2 months ago - Great podcast for mismatched libidos
What a great podcast if you have trouble coming to grips with the issue of mismatched libidos in your relationship. Laura is great at seeing both sides of the issue and gives great advice for how to meet each other even when it’s hard and feels lonely.
Apple Podcasts5André_T
Denmark4 months ago - Arousal Styles
The episode on arousal styles so resonated w me. I had never heard of erotic trance and Laura explains this in a way I could not articulate or understand. I have struggled to explain this to my husband and why I am SO sensitive to certain stimuli & how some things are so distracting. I also feel like role play is definitely my secondary & can even help support my “trance”. Thank you!! I know this will be a great tool for communication w my partner / husband.
Apple Podcasts5TracyLMAZUnited Statesa year ago - Finally someone with real insight into our relationship
My wife and I have been to so many counselors over the last 26 years. The podcast has dramatically changed my perspective which is helped our relationship so much. Laura is real with you and cares about helping people find their intimacy in their relationships. My wife and I are going through coaching with her as well. Thank you for real support and a very short amount of time. All the counseling I’ve received over the last 26 years with little to no help! Laura has given us a path forward and... more
Apple Podcasts5Gerlad714United States2 years ago - Awesome
For those of us who learned about intimacy during the Sex and the City era, this is a smart and healthy approach to more satisfying relationships!!
Apple Podcasts5Amanda 90026United States2 years ago
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A practical, body-first exploration of desire, intimacy, and mismatched libidos. Episodes consistently center somatic and nervous-system approaches to sex and relationships, offering actionable tools—often grounded in embodiment, communication, and safety—to help couples move beyond talk therapy and superficial fixes. Regular themes include understanding arousal, managing desire discrepancies, dismantling myths about love and effort, and navigating life changes like midlife transitions and ADHD's effects on intimacy. The host frequently shares personal experiences and data-driven insights, weaving coaching approaches with real-world exercises that listeners can try with partners. A standout angle is the emphasis on both partners' agency and... more
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