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我们应该如何看待人情世故？How should we view human feelings? 不离人情，关键看自己的发心。Not departing from human feelings, the keypoint rests in our aspiration.应该怎样发心？How should I arouse my aspiration?     想让我们的心更加开放、灵活、勇猛，要穿上慈悲的铠甲，拿上智慧的宝剑，把内心的无明与障碍扫除。仅仅寻求答案解决不了问题，只有修行的过程才能解决... more

应该怎么办？What should I do?不要当做还债，要当做结善缘。Don't treat it as paying a debt,but view itas making good connections.那别人帮了你，也应该有所回馈吧。If you got help from someone else, youshould also give something back.    把心放开，欢喜地接受他人的帮助，对方能感到付出的快乐，这也是一种回馈；进一步，把这种温暖传递给更多的人，则... more

对，就是不愿欠人情。Yes. I just don't want to owe interpersonaldebt.“欠人情”的心态，感恩心少而不安更多，因为担心自己将来还人情的麻烦，无形中把人与人之间的关心帮助当做了交换，这是一种自我包裹的表现，是内心虚弱、自卑、怕受伤害的表现。The mentality of "owing interpersonaldebt" implies less gratitude and more restlessness for fear of the troub... more

提问（金心）Question ( By Jin Xin)

回 答（贤勇）Answer ( By Xian Yong) 

我特别害怕求人，如果谁帮了我就总想着怎么赶紧把这份情还回去，心里沉甸甸的。您帮我分析分析这是怎么回事。

I am particularly afraid to ask for help. If anyone helps me, I always think about how to return it quickly, loaded with heavy psychologic... more

有很多假冒的乞讨者利用我们的同情心骗取钱财，收入比我们还高。我们该如何面对那些乞讨者？Many fake beggars take advantage of ourcompassion to defraud, making even more money than we do. How should we dealwith such beggars?         把重点放在自己的善业上，懂得自己在做什么，就不会总是随着外境而转。无论他人如何，自己造一份善业，终不会被业果欺骗。Focus on... more

亏欠心与感恩心该如何区分？ 

How to distinguish between a heart of thanksgiving and a feeling of debt?  亏欠的感觉，内心是封闭的，会感到欠了别人的人情、恩情而沉重不安，感恩心则是一种开放、坦然、真心实意的欢喜。虽都是受了他人的帮助，但前者是烦恼，后者是善法，源于自己内心不同方向的思维习惯。

A feeling of debt is a closed state of mind that makes one feel bu... more

对骗子短暂的慈悲可能会助长他们不劳而获的习气，如果拒绝施舍可以促使他们改变，从而走上正道不是更好么？

Temporary compassion for deceivers may reinforce their habit of getting something for nothing. Wouldn’t it be better if refusal to give could prompt them to change and get on the right path?  首先要有利益众... more

分不清真假乞丐时，我担心被骗，不愿意给骗子送钱，但就这么走过，心里同情又愧疚。该怎样办呢？ 

When I couldn't tell a real beggar from a fake one, I was afraid of being cheated and was reluctant to give money to a swindler, just walking by with sympathy and guilt. How to cope with that case?

我们通常认... more