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Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer

Headgum & Nicole Byer
Dating
Relationships
Comedy
Dating Apps
Mental Health
Nicole Byer
Love
Parenting
Rupaul's Drag Race
Los Angeles
Drag Race
New York
Therapy
Friendship
Personal Growth
Sonic the Hedgehog
Marriage
ADHD
Coming Out
Valentine's Day

Love and dating can be messy—so let’s talk about it! On this multi-award-winning podcast, comedian Nicole Byer explores romantic highs, lows, and all the juicy stuff in between, alongside comedians, experts, and sometimes an ex or two. New episodes every Friday!

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Latest Episodes

Drag queen Darlene Mitchell (Drag Race S18) joins Nicole for a chat about finding love in the Instagram DMs, pulling off a tear-jerking surprise proposal, and coming out to her conservative family via a massive group text right before leaving to film... more

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Comedian Ms. Pat joins Nicole to reveal the true secret to surviving a 33-year marriage, shares the brutal realities of menopause nobody talks about, and interrogates Nicole and the nice man in her life about why they aren't married yet. Plus, they d... more

We’ve all heard the persistent dating mandate that the ideal man needs to be over 6ft tall. But what happens when you’re a 6"2 woman facing a dating pool of tall men who have coasted by on their height alone? According to comedian Marcella Arguello, ... more

Drag queen icon BenDeLaCreme (Drag Race 6, All-Stars 3) joins Nicole to spill some major breaking news: they've been secretly separated from her partner of 8 years. They talk about the effort it takes to try to stay friends with an ex, the confusing ... more

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Darlene Mitchell
Iconic drag queen who competed on RuPaul's Drag Race (Season 18)
Drag performer, RuPaul's Drag Race contestant
Episode: Are YOU The Problem? (w/ Darlene Mitchell)
Ms. Pat
Emmy-nominated comedian, actress, author; star of The Ms. Pat Show
Ms. Pat Show / VH1 America's Funniest People
Episode: Grilling Nicole's Man (w/ Ms. Pat)
Marcella Arguello
Comedian, actress (Abbott Elementary)
Guest on the show
Episode: Dating a Short King (w/ Marcella Arguello)
Amber Lask
Iconic drag queen guest; performer
Self-employed/Drag industry
Episode: Finally Ready to Confess (w/ BenDeLaCreme)
Jarvis Johnson
YouTuber and host of Sad Boyz with a Z
Sad Boyz / Jarvis Johnson YouTube
Episode: The AI Dating Dystopia (w/ Jarvis Johnson)
Onya Nurve
Drag performer and contestant on Drag Race
Drag Race, Drag performer
Episode: The Catfish Who Wanted to "Teach Me a Lesson" (w/ Onya Nurve)
Kim Newmoney
Photographer and skater, featured guest on the episode
Self-employed (photography)
Episode: Juggling A 7-Man Harem (w/ Kim Newmoney)
Bresha Webb
Comedian and actress known for The Proud Family, Run the World, Hacks
Actor/Comedian
Episode: Dating a Hollywood Scammer (w/ Bresha Webb)
Eliot Glazer
Comedian and author of The Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Gay
Episode: The Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Date (w/ Eliot Glazer)

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Nicole Byer
Host of the show

Reviews

4.9 out of 5 stars from 25.3k ratings
  • SIX MINS OF OPENING ADS???????????

    This is one of my favorite shows and I look forward to listening weekly. The cash grab for SIX MINUTES of ads before the intro plays is EGREGIOUS. I will stop listening immediately if this isn’t resolved

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    jdaddy;p
    United Statesa month ago
  • Nicole for President

    The world would truly be a better place! I’m so glad you’re still doing this even though you have that nice man in your life. I’ve never had a podcast host make me laugh so hard!

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    MarineHausParis
    United States2 months ago
  • Cheesecake

    Where do I sign to get the Applebees Apple chimi cheesecake back?!

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    MARYBETHDB
    United States2 months ago
  • Nicole: I Will Date You

    I can’t imagine a more likable person than Nicole - sad I just discovered this but happy I have plenty to go through in the archives. Keep it up and IDEA! If things keep going well with nice man do a spinoff “why won’t you marry me?” That ends with the wedding

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    Fleecy Mag
    United States3 months ago
  • I love Nicole

    I feel like I could listen to Nicole on the toilet and it would still be so entertaining. From the first time I was aware of her I loved her so much. She always makes me laugh and has such a good and smart perspective. Grateful for you and your podcasts

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    Grovergoelz44
    United States3 months ago

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Listener feedback often mentions how the show blends personal stories with practical relationship takeaways.
Some listeners critique coverage when guests touch sensitive topics, noting the need for careful handling.
A common theme is appreciation for inclusive, LGBTQ+ perspectives and diverse guest lineups.
Fans highlight Nicole Byer's warmth and sharp interviewing as a standout strength.
Guests' candid dating stories drive both humor and relatable insights.

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Talking Points

Recent interactions between the hosts and their guests.

The Most Chaotic Friendship Ever (w/ Meatball and Big Dipper)
Q: Do you remember how you met, real story or fake story?
They discuss both versions, revealing the organic nature of their connection and the early awkward but growing collaboration.
The Catfish Who Wanted to "Teach Me a Lesson" (w/ Onya Nurve)
Q: What is something you learned about yourself through drag race or starting to do drag?
Drinking alcohol in this line of work isn't sustainable; I learned I needed to cut back to have longevity, and I learned not to take things too seriously about what others think, focusing on my own growth and happiness.
The Catfish Who Wanted to "Teach Me a Lesson" (w/ Onya Nurve)
Q: So you were casting Kinky Boots. What happened?
They let me go a few days before opening due to lack of staff for drag transitions; they didn't provide a makeup team which made it hard to manage the role in that non-equity production.
The 'Goblintimacy' Dating Trend (w/ Devon Walker)
Q: What is goblintimacy and why would someone try it on a date?
Goblintimacy is a trend where someone shows up on a first date in a 'goblin' state, i.e., the worst version of themselves, to test how a potential partner handles vulnerability and to see if honesty and rapport can matter more than polish.
Sharing Trade (w/ Willam Belli)
Q: What's your advice for single people out there?
Be enough for yourself first; recognize your own worth and don't rely on someone else to complete you. If needed, tell yourself and others you are worthy of a healthy relationship before seeking one.

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The show centers on dating, relationships, and romantic life with a candid, humorous lens. Conversations rotate among comedians, LGBTQ+ guests, relationship experts, and public figures who share personal dating experiences, boundary-setting, therapy, and modern love in a culture saturated with apps, fame, and social media. Episodes often blend intimate storytelling with practical relationship insights, plus light sponsorships woven into the chat. A standout throughline is exploring authenticity and self-worth in dating, from open relationships to long-term partnerships, all delivered with warmth, humor, and no-holds-barred honesty. This mix of humor, real talk, and diverse guest perspectives makes it appealing for listeners seeking relatabl... more

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2. Ms. Pat
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4. Amber Lask
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7. Kim Newmoney
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