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Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer

Headgum & Nicole Byer
Dating
Relationships
Comedy
Dating Apps
Mental Health
Nicole Byer
Love
Parenting
Rupaul's Drag Race
Los Angeles
Drag Race
New York
Therapy
Friendship
Personal Growth
Sonic the Hedgehog
Marriage
ADHD
Coming Out
Valentine's Day

Love and dating can be messy—so let’s talk about it! On this multi-award-winning podcast, comedian Nicole Byer explores romantic highs, lows, and all the juicy stuff in between, alongside comedians, experts, and sometimes an ex or two. New episodes every Friday!

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If you caught your partner sexting an AI, would you break up with them? 1 in 7 people in committed relationships have a secret AI partner on the side. Tech journalist Bridget Todd (host of There Are No Girls on the Internet) shares her reporting on w... more

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Three weeks after ending a 15-year relationship, comedian Adam Conover (Adam Ruins Everything, Factually!) went on a date with a 6'3" dominatrix whose first question was how he wanted to be dominated. He joins Nicole to share his side of the breakup ... more

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Illustrator and friend Lisa Hanawalt (Bojack Horseman, Tuca & Bertie) returns to the podcast to chat about starting fresh in the dating scene after a 15-year relationship with Adam Conover, and what happened when they tried opening things up before t... more

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Drag queen Darlene Mitchell (Drag Race S18) joins Nicole for a chat about finding love in the Instagram DMs, pulling off a tear-jerking surprise proposal, and coming out to her conservative family via a massive group text right before leaving to film... more

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Adam Conover
Comedian, writer, host of Adam Ruins Everything and Factually!
Headgum
Episode: Date with a Dominatrix (w/ Adam Conover)
Lisa Hanawalt
Illustrator, producer of BoJack Horseman and creator of Tuca & Bertie
Episode: I Wanna Be a Slut (w/ Lisa Hanawalt)
Darlene Mitchell
Iconic drag queen who competed on RuPaul's Drag Race (Season 18)
Drag performer, RuPaul's Drag Race contestant
Episode: Are YOU The Problem? (w/ Darlene Mitchell)
Ms. Pat
Emmy-nominated comedian, actress, author; star of The Ms. Pat Show
Ms. Pat Show / VH1 America's Funniest People
Episode: Grilling Nicole's Man (w/ Ms. Pat)
Marcella Arguello
Comedian, actress (Abbott Elementary)
Guest on the show
Episode: Dating a Short King (w/ Marcella Arguello)
Amber Lask
Iconic drag queen guest; performer
Self-employed/Drag industry
Episode: Finally Ready to Confess (w/ BenDeLaCreme)
Big Dipper
Rapper and Best Friends co-host, guest on show
Sloppy Seconds/drag and music
Episode: The Most Chaotic Friendship Ever (w/ Meatball and Big Dipper)
Jarvis Johnson
YouTuber and host of Sad Boyz with a Z
Sad Boyz / Jarvis Johnson YouTube
Episode: The AI Dating Dystopia (w/ Jarvis Johnson)
Onya Nurve
Drag performer and contestant on Drag Race
Drag Race, Drag performer
Episode: The Catfish Who Wanted to "Teach Me a Lesson" (w/ Onya Nurve)

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Nicole Byer
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Reviews

4.9 out of 5 stars from 25.3k ratings
  • SIX MINS OF OPENING ADS???????????

    This is one of my favorite shows and I look forward to listening weekly. The cash grab for SIX MINUTES of ads before the intro plays is EGREGIOUS. I will stop listening immediately if this isn’t resolved

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    jdaddy;p
    United States2 months ago
  • Nicole for President

    The world would truly be a better place! I’m so glad you’re still doing this even though you have that nice man in your life. I’ve never had a podcast host make me laugh so hard!

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    MarineHausParis
    United States2 months ago
  • Cheesecake

    Where do I sign to get the Applebees Apple chimi cheesecake back?!

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    MARYBETHDB
    United States3 months ago
  • Nicole: I Will Date You

    I can’t imagine a more likable person than Nicole - sad I just discovered this but happy I have plenty to go through in the archives. Keep it up and IDEA! If things keep going well with nice man do a spinoff “why won’t you marry me?” That ends with the wedding

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    Fleecy Mag
    United States3 months ago
  • I love Nicole

    I feel like I could listen to Nicole on the toilet and it would still be so entertaining. From the first time I was aware of her I loved her so much. She always makes me laugh and has such a good and smart perspective. Grateful for you and your podcasts

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    Grovergoelz44
    United States4 months ago

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Listener feedback often mentions how the show blends personal stories with practical relationship takeaways.
Some listeners critique coverage when guests touch sensitive topics, noting the need for careful handling.
A common theme is appreciation for inclusive, LGBTQ+ perspectives and diverse guest lineups.
Fans highlight Nicole Byer's warmth and sharp interviewing as a standout strength.
Guests' candid dating stories drive both humor and relatable insights.

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Talking Points

Recent interactions between the hosts and their guests.

Date with a Dominatrix (w/ Adam Conover)
Q: Can you talk about what that experience was like?
Conover describes a woman taking the lead by asking him out and showing consideration for his preferences. He found being pursued and treated as desirable affirming, and said their experience challenged conventional dating roles.
Date with a Dominatrix (w/ Adam Conover)
Q: What were the deep reasons the relationship ended?
Conover says he and Hanawalt had become codependent, and he relied too heavily on her approval while lacking an independent identity. They had built careers and reached a point where they wanted to explore different lives, and he had never experienced an adult single life.
I Wanna Be a Slut (w/ Lisa Hanawalt)
Q: When you opened up your relationship with Adam, was that because you were having issues or because you wanted to adventure?
Hanawalt said it was both: the couple felt more like roommates and best friends, their sex life had become less exciting, and they were both curious about flirting and seeing other people. They tried it with couples therapy and reading, but it ultimately contributed to a difficult, complicated period before their breakup.
I Wanna Be a Slut (w/ Lisa Hanawalt)
Q: Why were you thinking about sex so much?
After ending a 15-year relationship, Hanawalt was single and rediscovering herself sexually and on the dating scene, which inspired comics in her book.
The Most Chaotic Friendship Ever (w/ Meatball and Big Dipper)
Q: Do you remember how you met, real story or fake story?
They discuss both versions, revealing the organic nature of their connection and the early awkward but growing collaboration.

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The show centers on dating, relationships, and romantic life with a candid, humorous lens. Conversations rotate among comedians, LGBTQ+ guests, relationship experts, and public figures who share personal dating experiences, boundary-setting, therapy, and modern love in a culture saturated with apps, fame, and social media. Episodes often blend intimate storytelling with practical relationship insights, plus light sponsorships woven into the chat. A standout throughline is exploring authenticity and self-worth in dating, from open relationships to long-term partnerships, all delivered with warmth, humor, and no-holds-barred honesty. This mix of humor, real talk, and diverse guest perspectives makes it appealing for listeners seeking relatabl... more

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