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Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he’s a regular dude. Together they’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Subscribe for your weekly double date full... more

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Latest Episodes

Ever wondered why you have a certain kink? Or if it’s OK to fantasize about someone else during sex? Or maybe you’ve been curious about cuckolding, breeding kinks, or pegging… but didn’t know who to ask.

Today, we’re answering your questions about k... more

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Ready to turn things around in the bedroom?

We're talking reverse cowgirl, and trust us, there's a LOT more to this position than simply facing the other direction.

Where do your legs go? How do you keep your partner from popping out? And what exac... more

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Your husband creates AI videos of the two of you having sex. You're only having sex four times a year. Or you tried a new position once, hated it, and have absolutely no interest in giving it another shot.

Is this normal?!

We're back with another r... more

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Would you kiss your partner after they went down on you? What would you do if your partner wasn't enjoying the sex you were having? And how would you handle it if weight gain started affecting your physical intimacy?

Oh, we've got some opinions abou... more

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Recent Guests

Liz Moody
A longtime journalist who shares real science and realistic tools to level up every part of your life.
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Episode: Episode 170: What Do Women Really Think About ___? Part 2

Hosts

Vanessa Marin
Host of Pillow Talks, sex therapist with over 20 years of experience; frequently shares clinical insights and practical guidance.
Xander Marin
Co-host; regular participant offering the relatable, “everyday” perspective in discussions on relationships and sex.

Reviews

4.8 out of 5 stars from 6k ratings
  • Love it!

    Great podcast

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    kado998
    Polanda month ago
  • Wonderful content

    But lacks professionalism. I’m listening to episode E274 about a viral reel and 30 minutes in all she’s done is complain about people disagreeing with her! How is this educational for me the audience to listen to? Another episode their dog jumped on their lap and they had to talk about that, on a podcast that people are listening to. They need to remove all the random banter that is of zero relevance to the audience. Vanessa really could do this show on her own, it seems she just carries her hus... more

    Apple Podcasts
    3
    Edgycoolness
    United Statesa month ago
  • Great show!

    Love listening to you all. Such great information and you all are a part of my Thursdays!!!! Thanks for all you do!!!

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    LeighAnn L
    United Statesa month ago
  • A Podcast for keeping a Good Marriage Good.

    I’ve been listening to Pillow Talks weekly for about the past six months, and off and on for roughly a year before that.

    While our lifestyles seem a little different, I really appreciate the conversations Vanessa and Xander bring to the table. They’re willing to get into topics that a lot of couples simply don’t talk about, and they do it in a way that feels approachable instead of preachy.

    My one bit of constructive criticism is that sometimes they seem to teeter right on the edge of certain ... more

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    Poolboy81
    United Statesa month ago
  • Best podcast for improving your marriage

    This podcast has helped my husband and I improve our intimacy and overall marriage. Many times Vanessa or Xander say something that makes me say, “damn, I didn’t think of it that way.” Our sex life and marriage has changed for the better bc of these moments and my husband even follows and listens now too.

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    Becky5thgrade
    United Statesa month ago

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Overall strong reception for practical advice and humor.
Great show with honest conversations and actionable tips.
Some criticisms mention overly long ads or mansplaining in parts of episodes.
Listeners appreciate the education-forward approach and relatable hosts.

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Talking Points

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E283: Reverse Cowgirl: Tips, Tricks, and Techniques for Maximum Pleasure
Q: I'm worried about bending my husband's penis in a bad way, as opposed to bending in a good way. Any tips on how not to do that?
Xander recommends communicating with the partner, starting with penetration while sitting upright, and gradually changing position while checking whether the angle is comfortable.
E283: Reverse Cowgirl: Tips, Tricks, and Techniques for Maximum Pleasure
Q: How can I prevent his penis from popping out? What is the best angle for keeping him in?
They say popping out can happen when the person on top rises too far, especially with repeated up-and-down movement. Staying more upright, communicating about the comfortable range, and emphasizing grinding can help.
E282: Is This Normal? He Made AI Sex Videos of Us, and I Have Questions
Q: I know my wife enjoys sex because she says so, but I don't feel it by her actions during sex. Is that normal? Should I just take her word for it?
They explain that social expectations, self-consciousness, or focusing inward can affect how someone participates. They suggest asking about her favorite parts of sex and what would make it pleasurable, then discussing any feelings of disconnection without accusation.
E282: Is This Normal? He Made AI Sex Videos of Us, and I Have Questions
Q: Is it normal for my husband to create AI images and videos of us having sex?
They say the couple's comfort and consent matter more than whether the behavior is normal. Partners should talk about what images are used, how the AI service handles them, and whether the results might be shared or altered.
E279: Ask a Sex Therapist: Kink Icks, Spicy Pics, and Vanilla Sex
Q: How to approach intimacy when the rest of the marriage is in a rough patch?
Prioritize emotional safety first, acknowledge the situation openly, and discuss boundaries and possibilities for physical intimacy without pressuring the other person; use conversations to reconnect and determine what kind of intimacy is feasible during the challenging period.

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Frequently Asked Questions About Pillow Talks

What is Pillow Talks about and what kind of topics does it cover?

Two hosts guide listeners through practical, candid discussions about sex, relationships, and everyday intimacy with humor and clinical insight. Episodes consistently cover communication strategies, myths vs. reality in desire, and actionable tips couples can try, from conversation prompts to routines and product recommendations. The format blends personal storytelling with evidence-based guidance, side by side with sponsorships that feel integrated rather than intrusive. The show's openness about topics many avoid makes it a strong fit for couples seeking education, reassurance, and new ideas to improve connection.

What stands out is the blend of a licensed sex therapist with a relatable, everyman perspective, creating a welcoming space w... more

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