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Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he’s a regular dude. Together they’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Subscribe for your weekly double date full... more

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Every couple has that one thing they’ll argue about until the end of time. TV in the bedroom. How to load the dishwasher. Can men and women just be friends? 👀

We asked our community to send us the disagreements they just can’t seem to settle with t... more

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It’s Xander’s birthday! And this week for our Ask Us Anything episode, we decided to answer some of your personal questions!

This one really pulls back the curtain on us as a couple. Ready for honest reactions, beyond real talk, and more than a litt... more

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Should I shower first? Is this normal? Why does it smell like that?

This week we're going there with zero judgment, answering your real hygiene and sex questions one by one.

Nobody taught us how to actually take care of our bodies for sex. Not our ... more

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You send us your most "I can't believe I'm actually asking this" questions, and we live for it.

So we're back with the third edition of Ask a Sex Therapist, going rapid-fire through as many of them as we can, with real answers, tips, and stories.

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Hosts

Vanessa Marin
Host of Pillow Talks; licensed sex therapist with 20+ years of experience; focuses on sex education and relationship guidance.
Xander Marin
Co-host who represents the male perspective; regular guy sharing relationship insights.

Reviews

4.8 out of 5 stars from 5.3k ratings
  • 20 years and now single

    Yep. Over 20 years of marriage and now I am single. When I was married, I was the problem. I didn’t give enough, I didn’t clean enough, I didn’t cook enough, I was not happy enough. Finding a therapist that was healthy fit for me feels like walking in a loaded diaper but no clean wipes are to be found. Having Vanessa and Xander talk through relationships and the challenges of marriage helped comfort me. I am not alone. I am good enough. I am able to love me as a single mom and “No Mother, I don’... more

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    Mom needs confidence
    United Statesa month ago
  • Know your role Xander

    I’m a longtime listener and love the podcast, but one aspect of the show that I find really frustrating is when Xander tries to explain things that I want an “expert’s” perspective on…like your sex personality types. That would be like me as a non-nurse jumping in to technical part of my wife’s nursing experience. I appreciate the “normal dude” perspective, but cringe when I hear Xander talk like an expert.

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    jackduluoz03
    United Statesa month ago
  • Best Sex Podcast So Far

    This is such a great podcast! Super informative and very entertaining. Vanessa and Xander have such a great chemistry. Some of the episodes are laugh-out-loud funny.

    I even got my spouse in on the fun. She was not a fan of podcasts in general, let alone sex podcasts, but now she wants to listen all the time. Needless to say it has improved our sex life greatly.

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    TonyB_2020
    United Statesa month ago
  • Relatable

    I love listening to this podcast. After 30 years of marriage I still learn so much!

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    Lara Lahr
    United Statesa month ago
  • Good for monogamous, heterosexual couples.

    This podcast has good information, discussion topics, and fun married life experience sharing. It is from the perspective of a heterosexual monogamous couple, which comes across in their content, and is not very diverse in perspective and practice. This is not a bad thing, just helpful to know if you are not living a heterosexual or non-monogamous lifestyle.

    Apple Podcasts
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    Ni-ni-801
    United Statesa month ago

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Fans praise the show for practical, evidence-based relationship and sex education with relatable humor.
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E266: Ask a Sex Therapist (Part 3) Sex Pillows, Squirting, and Standing-Up Sex
Q: What does toss salad mean?
It is slang for analingus; the speakers explain etymology and acknowledge the vernacular while offering clear definitions and discussing comfort with terminology.
E266: Ask a Sex Therapist (Part 3) Sex Pillows, Squirting, and Standing-Up Sex
Q: How can I know if I'm about to squirt or just feel like peeing?
During internal front-wall stimulation, sensations can feel like an impending urination, but orgasm contractions usually make peeing difficult; relaxation and shower towels can help reduce anxiety while exploring.
E266: Ask a Sex Therapist (Part 3) Sex Pillows, Squirting, and Standing-Up Sex
Q: Is it selfish to not want my partner to masturbate?
Not inherently selfish; the answer depends on whether one partner consistently prioritizes their own masturbation over shared intimacy and the overall needs of the relationship.
E266: Ask a Sex Therapist (Part 3) Sex Pillows, Squirting, and Standing-Up Sex
Q: Why do I like fingers in my mouth during the act?
A combination of sensory stimulation and possibly power dynamics can contribute, but the therapists advise not over-interpreting the meaning and to consider that sexual preferences are usually a mix of random, personal, and context-driven factors.
E258: Weed, Alcohol, and Sex: What's Actually Happening to Your Body and Desire
Q: What can be done if one partner only touches when drunk?
This often requires couples therapy to explore underlying issues such as shame or attachment, and to establish healthier patterns that don't rely on intoxication.

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Frequently Asked Questions About Pillow Talks

What is Pillow Talks about and what kind of topics does it cover?

Two hosts—Vanessa Marin, a seasoned sex therapist, and Xander Marin, a male perspective who keeps conversations approachable—offer open, humorous, and practical guidance on sex, relationships, and parenting. Episodes blend personal stories, science-backed advice, and actionable techniques, often promoting their own courses and resources. The format is a candid, relationship-education style with a strong emphasis on communication, experimentation, and mutual pleasure, making complex topics accessible and entertaining for couples and curious individuals alike. Notable strengths include a rare balance of expert insight and relatable banter, plus a consistent expansion into practical tools (courses, cards, guides) that listeners can apply in re... more

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