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Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he’s a regular dude. Together they’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Subscribe for your weekly double date full... more

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It’s time for another episode of What Do Men Really Think About… and Xander’s back in the hot seat to answer your burning questions about preferences, fantasies, the death grip, and how to give better feedback in bed.

Plus, we’re giving you question... more

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You're finally in bed together, but you can’t stop thinking about tomorrow's to-do list.

We've all heard the advice to “just let go”. Stop thinking, stop controlling, lose yourself.

But 80% of you tell us that you struggle to actually do that.

So ... more

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We ran a poll and 67% of couples told us they feel more like roommates than partners.

This week we're walking through our D.R.I.F.T. Framework: the 5 silent relationship killers that chip away at intimacy, plus the small shifts that bring you back t... more

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Every couple has that one thing they’ll argue about until the end of time. TV in the bedroom. How to load the dishwasher. Can men and women just be friends? 👀

We asked our community to send us the disagreements they just can’t seem to settle with t... more

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Hosts

Vanessa Marin
Host of Pillow Talks; licensed sex therapist with 20+ years of experience; focuses on sex education and relationship guidance.
Xander Marin
Co-host who represents the male perspective; regular guy sharing relationship insights.

Reviews

4.8 out of 5 stars from 5.4k ratings
  • Great

    Great podcast. They tell it real and have done the homework and real work into it

    Apple Podcasts
    4
    Driveway dude
    United Statesa month ago
  • Great Podcast

    Hilarious, honest, and educational

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    Errors.loading
    United Statesa month ago
  • Let’s Make This Common

    This is the kinda stuff we should be talking about normally without hesitation. I am so grateful two people exist that are comfortable enough talking about all things taboo. This is such an important podcast.

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    Dayna Rae
    United Statesa month ago
  • Compassionate Support

    My husband and I have been married for 35 years. My baggage to our marriage is my history with sexual abuse. The shame I have carried for years has often been pushed down and ignored for years in my attempts to be vulnerable with my husband. With therapy and now stumbling upon your podcast has been transformative to my sexual self. I am learning to not have the intense protective fear around sex. I no longer feel as though my husband is trying to take something from me. Xander, yes you, have giv... more

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    Cursillo sister
    United Statesa month ago
  • Great Podcast

    I really enjoy listening to this podcast because it gets you to think and learn new ideas that may even seem simple to incorporate in your intimate life but that you would just never think of. I also love it because it breaks down the stigma around talking about sex in a great way and you get two really great perspectives on every topic!

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    amberfronck
    United Statesa month ago

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Critiques note ads and occasional dominance by one host impacting listening experience.
Fans praise the show for practical, evidence-based relationship and sex education with relatable humor.
Listeners cite actionable tips, real-world examples, and approachable, supportive tone.

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E266: Ask a Sex Therapist (Part 3) Sex Pillows, Squirting, and Standing-Up Sex
Q: What does toss salad mean?
It is slang for analingus; the speakers explain etymology and acknowledge the vernacular while offering clear definitions and discussing comfort with terminology.
E266: Ask a Sex Therapist (Part 3) Sex Pillows, Squirting, and Standing-Up Sex
Q: How can I know if I'm about to squirt or just feel like peeing?
During internal front-wall stimulation, sensations can feel like an impending urination, but orgasm contractions usually make peeing difficult; relaxation and shower towels can help reduce anxiety while exploring.
E266: Ask a Sex Therapist (Part 3) Sex Pillows, Squirting, and Standing-Up Sex
Q: Is it selfish to not want my partner to masturbate?
Not inherently selfish; the answer depends on whether one partner consistently prioritizes their own masturbation over shared intimacy and the overall needs of the relationship.
E266: Ask a Sex Therapist (Part 3) Sex Pillows, Squirting, and Standing-Up Sex
Q: Why do I like fingers in my mouth during the act?
A combination of sensory stimulation and possibly power dynamics can contribute, but the therapists advise not over-interpreting the meaning and to consider that sexual preferences are usually a mix of random, personal, and context-driven factors.
E258: Weed, Alcohol, and Sex: What's Actually Happening to Your Body and Desire
Q: What can be done if one partner only touches when drunk?
This often requires couples therapy to explore underlying issues such as shame or attachment, and to establish healthier patterns that don't rely on intoxication.

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Frequently Asked Questions About Pillow Talks

What is Pillow Talks about and what kind of topics does it cover?

Two hosts—Vanessa Marin, a seasoned sex therapist, and Xander Marin, a male perspective who keeps conversations approachable—offer open, humorous, and practical guidance on sex, relationships, and parenting. Episodes blend personal stories, science-backed advice, and actionable techniques, often promoting their own courses and resources. The format is a candid, relationship-education style with a strong emphasis on communication, experimentation, and mutual pleasure, making complex topics accessible and entertaining for couples and curious individuals alike. Notable strengths include a rare balance of expert insight and relatable banter, plus a consistent expansion into practical tools (courses, cards, guides) that listeners can apply in re... more

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