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Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he’s a regular dude. Together they’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Subscribe for your weekly double date full... more

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Would you kiss your partner after they went down on you? What would you do if your partner wasn't enjoying the sex you were having? And how would you handle it if weight gain started affecting your physical intimacy?

Oh, we've got some opinions abou... more

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Initiating sex in your relationship should feel exciting, not frustrating. But for most couples, it’s anything but smooth.

Whether you're feeling stuck, rejected, or just plain awkward when it comes to getting things started in the bedroom, today’s ... more

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Would you tell your partner if their kink gave you the ick? What if their foreplay technique wasn't quite doing it for you? And is it normal for sex to be just okay most of the time?

Oh, we've got some GOOD questions for you today.

We're back with ... more

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Your conversations have turned into a running list of who's handling what, and your quality time is two people on one couch looking at two different screens. 44% of the couples we polled said they're in a rut right now too.

So we built you a four-we... more

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Liz Moody
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Hosts

Vanessa Marin
Host of Pillow Talks, sex therapist with over 20 years of experience; frequently shares clinical insights and practical guidance.
Xander Marin
Co-host; regular participant offering the relatable, “everyday” perspective in discussions on relationships and sex.

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4.8 out of 5 stars from 5.9k ratings
  • Love it!

    Great podcast

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    kado998
    Poland16 days ago
  • Wonderful content

    But lacks professionalism. I’m listening to episode E274 about a viral reel and 30 minutes in all she’s done is complain about people disagreeing with her! How is this educational for me the audience to listen to? Another episode their dog jumped on their lap and they had to talk about that, on a podcast that people are listening to. They need to remove all the random banter that is of zero relevance to the audience. Vanessa really could do this show on her own, it seems she just carries her hus... more

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    3
    Edgycoolness
    United States18 days ago
  • Great show!

    Love listening to you all. Such great information and you all are a part of my Thursdays!!!! Thanks for all you do!!!

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    LeighAnn L
    United States20 days ago
  • A Podcast for keeping a Good Marriage Good.

    I’ve been listening to Pillow Talks weekly for about the past six months, and off and on for roughly a year before that.

    While our lifestyles seem a little different, I really appreciate the conversations Vanessa and Xander bring to the table. They’re willing to get into topics that a lot of couples simply don’t talk about, and they do it in a way that feels approachable instead of preachy.

    My one bit of constructive criticism is that sometimes they seem to teeter right on the edge of certain ... more

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    Poolboy81
    United States20 days ago
  • Best podcast for improving your marriage

    This podcast has helped my husband and I improve our intimacy and overall marriage. Many times Vanessa or Xander say something that makes me say, “damn, I didn’t think of it that way.” Our sex life and marriage has changed for the better bc of these moments and my husband even follows and listens now too.

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    Becky5thgrade
    United States21 days ago

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Overall strong reception for practical advice and humor.
Great show with honest conversations and actionable tips.
Some criticisms mention overly long ads or mansplaining in parts of episodes.
Listeners appreciate the education-forward approach and relatable hosts.

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E279: Ask a Sex Therapist: Kink Icks, Spicy Pics, and Vanilla Sex
Q: How to approach intimacy when the rest of the marriage is in a rough patch?
Prioritize emotional safety first, acknowledge the situation openly, and discuss boundaries and possibilities for physical intimacy without pressuring the other person; use conversations to reconnect and determine what kind of intimacy is feasible during the challenging period.
E279: Ask a Sex Therapist: Kink Icks, Spicy Pics, and Vanilla Sex
Q: What do you do if your partner has a kink that gives you the Ick?
Explore whether the kink is a deal-breaker, consider internalized shame, and discuss gradually easing into it or seeking therapy; if it remains intolerable, the relationship may need to re-evaluate compatibility while approaching the topic with respect and honesty.
E279: Ask a Sex Therapist: Kink Icks, Spicy Pics, and Vanilla Sex
Q: What's a respectful way to ask your wife for spicy picks?
Start by discussing the topic in general, gauge her stance on nudity and nudes, and then, if she's neutral or positive, frame a request with compliments and mutual exploration rather than demanding pictures; offer a light, non-threatening way to start, such as suggesting trying together or trying new things that can be shared.
E266: Ask a Sex Therapist (Part 3) Sex Pillows, Squirting, and Standing-Up Sex
Q: What does toss salad mean?
It is slang for analingus; the speakers explain etymology and acknowledge the vernacular while offering clear definitions and discussing comfort with terminology.
E266: Ask a Sex Therapist (Part 3) Sex Pillows, Squirting, and Standing-Up Sex
Q: How can I know if I'm about to squirt or just feel like peeing?
During internal front-wall stimulation, sensations can feel like an impending urination, but orgasm contractions usually make peeing difficult; relaxation and shower towels can help reduce anxiety while exploring.

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Frequently Asked Questions About Pillow Talks

What is Pillow Talks about and what kind of topics does it cover?

Two hosts guide listeners through practical, candid discussions about sex, relationships, and everyday intimacy with humor and clinical insight. Episodes consistently cover communication strategies, myths vs. reality in desire, and actionable tips couples can try, from conversation prompts to routines and product recommendations. The format blends personal storytelling with evidence-based guidance, side by side with sponsorships that feel integrated rather than intrusive. The show's openness about topics many avoid makes it a strong fit for couples seeking education, reassurance, and new ideas to improve connection.

What stands out is the blend of a licensed sex therapist with a relatable, everyman perspective, creating a welcoming space w... more

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