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How To Have Sex is the sex education you never got at school, and have been quietly winging ever since. Hosted by broadcaster Jay-Jay Feeney and certified somatic sex and relationship coach Melissa Vranjes. One very curious host and one expert who actually knows the answers. Every episode tackles a real topic: how to improve your sex life, how to talk about intimacy without killing the mood, how t... more

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Feet, leather, role-play, secret fantasies… what on earth turns people on, and WHY?!

This week on How To Have Sex, Jay-Jay Feeney and sex and relationship coach Melissa Vranjes dive into the fascinating world of kinks and fetishes. And trust us, thi... more

How to Feel Sexy Again After Heartbreak 💔

They say the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else. But is that actually good advice? Or are you just making a bad situation a whole lot messier?

This week on How to Have Sex, Jay-Jay F... more

Have you ever looked at your bits and wondered, “Is that normal?”

You're not alone! And this week, Jay-Jay and Mel are getting VERY personal.

We're talking about the insecurities nobody likes admitting to, from the appearance of our intimate body p... more

Can you ever REALLY forgive someone for cheating? And even if you do, can your relationship ever be the same again?

This week, we're getting VERY personal.

Mel reveals that an ex-boyfriend cheated on her for a year and a half. At one point, anothe... more

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Hosts

Jay-Jay Feeney
Host of the show; broadcaster with 30+ years in radio
Melissa Vranjes
Co-host and expert on sex and relationship topics; Certified Sex & Relationship Coach

Reviews

4.3 out of 5 stars from 129 ratings
  • So informative!

    This is a fantastic, informative and honest podcast. So many wonderful insights and ideas. Jay Jays awkward embarrassment and need to crack gags when she feels uncomfortable is very frustrating, when the subject is earnest but playful; but I also understand the awkwardness.

    Apple Podcasts
    4
    MichelleWBL
    Australia3 months ago
  • Love it!!!

    Fantastic pod ladies!!! These conversations need to be normalised and you both do it so well. The perfect combo - the expert and the awkward! Makes it all so relatable. Thank you for being so brave and vulnerable!!

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    Cmason22
    New Zealand7 months ago
  • SO GOOD!

    Such a great podcast and a good conversation starter too! Educational, funny, reassuring, mind opening! Love hearing you open up Jay Jay

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    yoyo-chch-nz
    New Zealand7 months ago
  • I want more…!!

    Loved your first two episodes…normalising ‘stuff’ and thanks JJ for being vulnerable! Looking forward to the next episode!

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    SuseMcL
    New Zealand7 months ago
  • Open, honest and a little bit naughty!

    Such a fun and refreshing listen. Jay Jay and Melissa have such a beautiful synergy ! It’s informative without taking itself too seriously, and I found myself both laughing and learning at the same time. Jay-Jay is incredibly open, honest and vulnerable, the kind of real that makes you instantly feel like you’re just chatting with a friend. Nothing feels sugar-coated, which is what makes it so relatable.

    Safe to say I’m now officially looking forward to Hump Day Wednesdays for my weekly fix 👀

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    Katavandijk
    New Zealand7 months ago

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How To Understand Fetishes and Kinks
Q: If you've got a kink that you want your partner to know about, but you're really, really scared to tell them, what do you suggest is the best way to do that?
Vranjes recommends introducing the subject as something vulnerable, checking whether the partner is open to hearing it, sharing the desire without pressure, and giving them permission to say no. The couple can discuss feelings, boundaries, and gradual ways to explore it.
How To Understand Fetishes and Kinks
Q: What is the difference between a kink and a fetish?
A kink adds sexual excitement but may not be needed every time, while a fetish can be central to arousal and may feel necessary for intense sexual excitement.
How To Feel Sexy Again After Heartbreak
Q: What's your best advice for someone who's been really badly hurt, but really wants to fall in love again?
Melissa recommends allowing time not only to move on but to love oneself deeply, explaining that returning love to oneself can help mend a broken heart and make it easier to trust again.
How To Feel Sexy Again After Heartbreak
Q: How can you, like it's hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel when you're in the heartbreak, it's hard to see that you will find love and happiness again. So what's the advice to get out of that little feeling?
Melissa says to allow grief and painful thoughts without treating them as permanent truths, ask a supportive friend to help interrupt spirals, and use small actions such as seeing a friend, going for a run or taking a shower to shift perspective.
How To Come Back From Infidelity
Q: Why do people cheat?
Vranjes cites loneliness, resentment, disconnection, poor communication, unmet needs, avoidance, blurred boundaries and outside opportunities. She says feeling unseen or emotionally disconnected can make attention from someone else feel especially compelling.

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A candid, practical sex-education show hosted by a radio veteran and a certified sex and relationship coach. Episodes consistently tackle real-world intimacy topics—from reigniting desire after resentments or parenting to navigating dating, casual encounters, and long-term relationships—with a warm, humorous tone and concrete tactics. Practical demonstrations, personal anecdotes, and structured frameworks help listeners communicate better, explore boundaries, and rebuild connection without shame. A recurring emphasis on consent, body-awareness, and non-judgmental conversation makes it a reliable resource for couples, singles exploring sexuality, and professionals in relationships or wellness spaces. The show often includes sponsor integrati... more

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