
Dating on High Alert dives into the messy reality of relationships and life, neurodivergence, trauma, masking, and survival mode - because when your nervous system has spent years trying to keep you safe, connection gets complicated.
Hosted by Ilja Abbattista - trauma-informed coach, survivor advocate, and AuDHD truth-teller - this podcast explores ADHD, autism, CPTSD, attachment, emotional overw... more
| Publishes | Weekly | Episodes | 38 | Founded | a year ago |
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What really happens when you start ADHD medication?
In this episode of Dating on High Alert, Ilja Abbattista shares her honest personal experience of being diagnosed with ADHD in her 50s and starting stimulant medication for the fi... more
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Have you ever told someone everything about your past, only to watch them pull away?
Maybe you've called it honesty, or you've called it vulnerability.
Maybe you've convinced yourself that if they're going to leave, you'd rather kn... more
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What happens when you read a message, mean to reply… and then completely forget?
And what happens when someone does the same thing to you?
In this episode of Dating on High Alert, we’re talking about unread messages, forgotten pla... more
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You Can’t Love Well From a False Map | Dating on High Alert with Ilja Abbattista
What happens when the information you’ve used to understand yourself was never built for the full picture?
A major new study has found that over half... more
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What if the intensity you’re feeling… isn’t connection?
In this episode of Dating on High Alert, we’re looking at something that doesn’t get talked about anywhere near enough - the way ambiguity, inconsistency, and mixed signals ca... more
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Your Body Already Knew. Your Mind Just Didn’t Want to Know.
Have you ever had a feeling about someone that you kept explaining away?
It wasn't because you were naïve, or because you “missed the signs.”
But because the connection f... more
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You don’t keep choosing the same person.
It just feels like you do.
Different face. Same pattern.
Different relationship. Same ending.
Different version of you… somehow still stuck in the same place.
And at some point, you start... more
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Why are you late… even when you care?
In this episode, we’re talking about ADHD, autism, and time blindness, and why AuDHD brains experience time completely differently.
This is not an episode about excuses or apologies.
It’s an... more









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The show centers on relationships through the lens of neurodivergence and trauma, exploring how ADHD, autism, CPTSD, and attachment histories shape dating, intimacy, and everyday interactions. Hosts and guests unpack nervous system regulation, masking, hypervigilance, and patterns that show up in love and life after survival. Across episodes, listeners encounter practical guidance on building safety, cultivating self-awareness, and communicating needs with compassion, along with candid personal stories that normalize feelings of uncertainty, longing, and vulnerability. A standout aspect is the emphasis on compassionate self-understanding as a foundation for healthier connections, rather than treating distress as a flaw. The format often ble... more
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