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有時候控制欲來自於創傷的代償。
越是控制、越不安、越不安、又越控制......形成負向的循環。
PTSD與強迫性重複
透過不停重演創傷,尋求對痛苦的掌控感。
Solution:重建神經迴路,透過身心連結,去緩解或甚至逆轉創傷反應
推薦書《心靈的傷,身體會記住》
療癒創傷六步驟
• 承認自己有創傷:這需要勇氣才能做到,羞愧感有時候是阻礙復原的阻礙
• 釐清創傷反應的觸發點、分析脈絡
• 身心連結:讓身體、自律神經系統知道自己已經安全了
• 重建關係與安全感:練習設定界線、表達... more
「我一定要原諒對方、放過對方,才能自由嗎?」
在關係破裂的當下,如果就太急著要以「以德報怨」、「聖人視角」、「以和為貴」等價值觀,要求自己去原諒對方,有時候反而會造成自己內在委屈的堆積與變質。如果對於對方抱持虛妄的期待,也會讓自己陷入不自由的境地之中(ex期待別人良心會痛、期待別人來道歉等等)。有時候不是困在對方的錯誤中,底層邏輯有時候是無法釋懷自己對自己的自責(ex覺得自己很笨、信錯人等等)
釋懷的因應之道
• 承認自己的不滿,讓負面情緒流動,而不是急著去掩蓋這些情感
• 允許負... more
「我這樣做都是為你好!!」這句話相當常見。
但這句話到底是情感支持,還是情緒勒索呢?
分辨法
<行進脈絡>
(1)情感支持:感受到自己被看見、即便不照做也沒關係、感受到自己被鼓勵成為自己
(2)情緒勒索:如果不照做,對方就會陰陽怪氣,因而感受到愧疚感、不安或甚至懷疑自己
<調性層面>
(1)情感支持:輕盈、開闊、無負擔、自在
(2)情緒勒索:壓縮、沈重、負債感、愧疚感、不安
<結果層面>
(1)情感支持:感受到自己受到鼓勵、去成為真實的自己
(2)情緒勒索:感受到自己... more
職業簡介
Coaching:一種具有去中心化願景的職業,協助個案在生命中各種複雜的狀態裡釐清自己內心的渴望與目標,跳脫主觀意識的迴圈,以客觀角度協助與陪伴個案開發一切的創意與潛能,讓個案的生命發展能夠和內在的願景相互校準。
自己Coaching自己的先決條件:夠認識自己!
(1)對內在的狀態,能有一定程度的覺察與掌控
(2)對自己的信念、想法都要足夠誠實
自己Coaching自己的心法
(1)陰陽平衡
(2)虛實平衡
(3)波粒平衡
簡便公式:想法(抽象)+行動(具體)... more
控制欲有演化上的意義,可以協助人類避開危險,但過度的控制會導致靈魂有窒息的感受。
剖析控制欲的底層邏輯:害怕未知所帶來的潛在危險、動盪、失控與衝擊
自我檢視:是否自己對於「未知」有過度的恐懼?(自己會更傾向想控制一切)
(1) 視穩定為價值,視不確定性為威脅
(2)害怕自己要是一出錯就全盤皆輸
(3)倘若事情不符合自己的預期就容易崩潰
(4)未知的狀態令人心驚、不一定會接住我
《易經》中的啟發卦象,以老子的道家思想重新詮釋
(1)乾卦:「天行健,君子以自強不息。」
過去... more
螃蟹效應
從螃蟹效應思考其背後的信念模式:群體牽制、相對地位、相對剝奪......
人跟人之間的羈絆,到底是互相成長,還是互相困住彼此呢?如何辨別?
《易經》的啟發
(一)比卦:「有孚比之,無咎。」(羈絆的基本條件是誠信);「比之匪人,不亦傷乎?」(跟不好的羈絆纏繞在一起,不是一件很悲傷的事情嗎?)
(二)同人卦:同人,先嚎啕而後笑,大師克相遇。(在人際議題中的蛻變,有時候會經歷一些不舒服的成長痛)
因應之道
• 如實觀察、拆解自己內在的起心動念
• 了解到:信任不是勒索,... more
從通膨、娛樂性通膨(Funflation)到靈性通膨(Spiritual Inflation)
當消費文化進入身心靈之後的影響,以及我們該如何因應、自處?
內外相互引動、虛實相互轉換,過度偏激都容易失衡。
當貪嗔痴悄悄滲透進靈性追求,又該要如何穿透這些阻礙、才能從中刪拾出珍貴的禮物呢?
如果有潛在的問題,為什麼不適合全有全無的割捨呢?
追尋靈性的初衷什麼?我們有因此變得更完整?還是更偏激、破碎了呢?
留言區傳送門: open.firstory.me/user/clbw... more
分享我們自己因應資訊超載的方式
• 閾值:特定主題被滿足後,不再重複瀏覽
• 代償:觀察自己是不是因為疲倦而尋求慰藉、進而不自覺的沈迷在滑手機當中
• baskets:列出不同的重要主題,只需要每天填入少量的資訊即可,可分散風險、減少焦慮。
• 觀察自己:滑手機之後的反應是狀態更好、還是更差?
• 把資訊分成廣度與深度的層次:享受演算法的魔法,但又不失去自己的平衡
• Good vision, 順勢找出自己原始的動力!
• 獨立思考能力:我真心喜歡這個決定,還是只是跟風而已?
留言區傳送門:... more
佩服主持人們天馬行空的腦迴路與內涵。主要是妳們聊天一來一往的也太有愛了吧?感覺是兩個很有默契、能互相接住彼此的人!聽妳們的頻道會讓我不禁想微笑~感受得到妳們把艱澀的體悟都輸出成好消化&輕鬆的東西!
整場談話下來兩個女生聊起來好自然好舒服的氛圍~
裏面有好有趣的觀點我從來沒有想過呢,妳們好棒,謝謝妳們的分享!
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