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After the Affair

Luke Shillings
Infidelity
Trust
Hysterical Bonding
Communication
Relationships
Relationship Dynamics
Emotional Healing
Coping Mechanisms
Personal Growth
Emotional Fulfillment
Rebuilding Trust
Self-Worth
Emotional Pain
Betrayal
Emotional Trauma
Communication In Relationships
Beliefs
Confidence
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
Ethics In Relationships

The ‘After the affair’ podcast with Luke Shillings is here to help you process, decide, and move forward on purpose following infidelity. Let’s explore what’s required to rebuild trust not only in yourself, but also with others. Whether you stay or leave, I can help! and no matter what your story, there will be something here for you.

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Latest Episodes

After infidelity, “safety” becomes the word we chase;

- Emotional safety

- Relational safety

- Internal safety

But what does that actually mean? And how do you build it when trust has been broken?

In this episode, Luke explores the delicate ba... more

Fight, Apologise, Repeat: Breaking the Cycle of False Hope

If you’ve ever felt stuck in the cycle of conflict and reconciliation, the fights that leave you questioning everything, followed by apologies that flood you with hope, this episode is for y... more

When betrayal strikes, many couples attempt reconciliation. But what happens when it doesn’t work out? When the marriage itself doesn’t survive, and you’re left staring at a future you never planned for?

In this episode, I explore the emotional real... more

In this reflective episode, Luke explores why some people feel easy and others feel impossible, and how much of that is shaped by our beliefs. Drawing on intuition/gut feeling, judgement, and old wounds, he unpacks how the brain filters reality, why ... more

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Matt Smith
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Caz Grant
RAF veteran who shares her experiences with infidelity in military marriages.
Episode: 84. Breaking the Ranks: Navigating Infidelity in Military Marriages with Caz Grant

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Luke Shillings
Host of After the Affair, focusing on providing insights and support for healing after infidelity.

Reviews

4.7 out of 5 stars from 90 ratings
  • Incredibly Helpful

    Luke has a unique ability to dissect incredibly difficult topics with compassion and a willingness to explore multiple perspectives. Listening to this podcast has helped me identify and work through aspects of my own experiences with infidelity and divorce. The choice of subject matter as well as the approach Luke applies in each episode is equal parts validating and curiosity-inducing. Whether you’re in the initial stages of discovery, or years down the road to recovery, I highly recommend Luke... more

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    MsMW2022
    United Statesa year ago
  • I felt seen

    You spoke with such clarity without the shame. It was truly insightful and beautiful to be seen and be exposed to my blind spots.

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    Northyo
    United States2 years ago
  • A service the world needs!

    Luke is doing the world a service by speaking about a topic that feels taboo to many people. I prefer the interview episodes that have more energy, but the content is great in every episode.

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    dnbremer
    United States2 years ago
  • Balm for the soul

    Luke knows from his own experiences. His insights can be implemented immediately, producing tangible results within the listener. His voice is incredibly soothing and reassuring.

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    grateful-Ma
    United States2 years ago
  • A great podcast

    I continue to find Luke’s podcasts very useful & everything he says makes perfect sense.

    I like the way that sometimes he just has a ‘take’ on how it is from both sides.

    Well worth a listen.

    Apple Podcasts
    5
    Cheekychoccychip
    United Kingdom3 years ago

Listeners Say

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Many highlight the practical advice and insights provided, making it applicable regardless of their current relationship status.
Listeners appreciate the compassionate exploration of difficult topics surrounding infidelity and relationships.
The content is praised for being relatable and validating of personal experiences, helping listeners feel seen and understood.

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151. The Questions You’re Afraid to Ask: But Desperately Need Answered (Q&A Part 2)
Q: How do I create a new version of life when I'm still clinging to the old one?
Start by planting one new seed that aligns with who you want to become.
151. The Questions You’re Afraid to Ask: But Desperately Need Answered (Q&A Part 2)
Q: Why do I keep replaying arguments in my head?
It's your nervous system trying to finish the conversation you didn't get to have.
151. The Questions You’re Afraid to Ask: But Desperately Need Answered (Q&A Part 2)
Q: Is it normal to feel like I'm becoming somebody that I don't even like?
Yes, it's common after betrayal. You're adapting, not broken.
151. The Questions You’re Afraid to Ask: But Desperately Need Answered (Q&A Part 2)
Q: How do I stay emotionally present for my children when I'm barely holding it together?
Your children need to see resilience, and you don't have to be perfect; just be real.
151. The Questions You’re Afraid to Ask: But Desperately Need Answered (Q&A Part 2)
Q: Why does forgiveness feel like a portrayal of myself?
Forgiveness is not betrayal. Silencing yourself is. It's a choice to stop letting their actions bleed into your peace.

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Focusing on the aftermath of infidelity, this series offers listeners insights into personal healing and growth post-betrayal. Episodes explore themes such as emotional recovery, trust rebuilding, and understanding complex emotional responses to infidelity. The content is shaped around personal narratives, expert perspectives, and practical advice aimed at supporting individuals navigating the tumultuous waters of relationship betrayal. Unique in its compassionate approach, the series seeks to validate the experiences of its audience while fostering a mindset of self-compassion and accountability throughout their healing journey.

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